Met a guy online by accident conversing as friends. He later asked for phone number and began talking on the phone. After 3rd phone call started to develop into this deep attraction. He mentioned being married when we were talking as friends, but kind of forgot about it, since he never talked about her. Something wasn't adding up right that he even had a wife. He said she traveled almost every day of the year, and the little she was there they didn't do anything together. Thought that was odd. It was almost becoming unbelievable to me, but maybe he was married. Anyway, the attraction became almost soul mate like connection, either of us could stay away. He kept commenting on how strong it was, and how it was going to transcend into something more. About a week ago he called me at 2 a.m. which was normal, and in the midst of our conversation, heard what seemed a screeching noise in the background. The phone immediately went silent, and he came back on, and bluntly said wife was home early from vacation, and could he call me back. He called back and said he got rid of her, that she was gone out of the house. I said, I couldn't carry on because of her, he then said they were talking about separating, and he saw a whole lot of future with us. He asked if we could just be friends, and that maybe we were just a little too close. I did not want to be friends, but thought perhaps the ball was in his court when and if he decided to leave his wife. He said, okay and I have his number if I changed my mind. It's been over a week, and I have not heard from him. Would this type of behavior display he really didn't want the relationship?
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This is pretty complicated with his wife in the picture. I don't think you should assume that his actions and decisions are entirely about you with no regard for his wife. Whatever else one can say about that relationship, they haven't left each other so there must be something keeping them together. If he doesn't leave her for you, this is not to say that he wouldn't want the relationship if he were single. The question may be whether he is willing to do what's needed to sever his emotional ties with his wife. That may be a much bigger task for him than you would think given what he's said.0
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