Fast forward two months. Now after no contact with her, she texts and calls out of the blue, wanting me to come back. I was reluctant at first, but gave in. After discussing the option of me moving back, she seemed happy. But once again, I could feel her becoming distant a month afterward. The affection and intimacy almost came to a complete stop. She came up with excuse after excuse and at times acted like nothing was wrong. 'At this point, she's either lost interest or has gotten cold feet. Something seemed off after what I thought was going good. This was at the 9 month mark.
Now after another month of seemingly distant behavior, and not wanting to see me, I get a text once and a while, her asking how I'm doing, what I'm up to, etc. Other than that, nothing. The last couple visits I made, she'd flake out or say she was too busy to spend time with me. This has all gone in the last month.
Now currently I'm back in my hometown and she knows this. I asked once or twice together, and after her saying no, I gave up on it. I got fed up with this odd behavior and told her I needed answers. In a 10 minute phone chat, she tells me she's not looking for a relationship and that she doesn't want to be with. She came up with every excuse in the book. She 's busy with her job, she has a health issue she's trying to get over and that she's stressed out. This was never a problem in the past, and if it was, I would of picked up on it. I told her I understood and said OK, if that's what she wants, then were done. No more texting and calling each other. The only time she's texting me now, in the two weeks since that chat, is to know I'm up to on the weekends, like where I'm at and what I'm doing. She's sorry for everything that's happened and blah, blah, blah. I don't respond to any of this.
Right now, I'm trying to make sense of this, and I can't. What's her reason for doing this ? Is there another guy on the side, and am I being strung along at this point and why? There is absolutely no other reason for her behavior other than that she's hiding something. If it was a loss of interest, then she wouldn't keep continually initiating contact. Do I walk away at this point? I'm starting to think that the person I met, is a complete fake and doesn't know what she wants!
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I think you're completely correct in what you think about this gal you met. my advice is to just move on and get on with your life. and to be honest you really don't know who this girl is and maybe its a good thing that you're noticing all the red flags now rather than trying to push for a relationship with someone who might turn out to be a complete nightmare who you will never be able to be rid of. life's too short and it sounds to me that you moved onto a new chapter in your life. so don't let anyone hinder you or make you question who you really are. I hope this helps and take care!