Me and my ex-boyfriend broke up a while ago. I'm not bothered that we broke up anymore but there is some weird behavior that I would like answered about the relationship, during, during the break up and after, because it's just affected me and hurts me still. We were together for nearly a year and when we were together he never liked having pictures taken with me although there were quite a lot of him and his ex-girlfriends still on his Facebook. I tried to take a picture of us, when we were on the beach once and he refused to have one because he said he didn't look very good. After that I never tried again and was a bit upset that he didn't want to make any memories with me (I know it is shallow but still). All of his family kept asking why there weren't any pictures of us and so did my family, in fact my mother was annoyed that he didn't seem to want any of me but still had pics of his exes.
I asked him why there were no pictures of us and he just said oh yeah sorry, don't know why that has happened.
Eventually we broke up for many reasons, but I mentioned during that it hurt he never wanted pictures of us. He said that it wasn't me, because he found me ridiculously beautiful and that the reason was him. He said he hated the way he looked and hated having pictures taken. I believed him and said that's OK and glad he told me the real reason.
A month after breaking up, we didn't see each other at all or have much contact, and suddenly one day loads of pictures of him with his arm around a new girl appeared on my Facebook. Naturally I was distraught because I still loved him, but couldn't believe he had given me this bull sh*t excuse about hating the way he looks. To suddenly have pictures with a girl he barely knew?
So what I am asking is, what the hell is up with his behavior ? If he found me beautiful, why did he never want pictures with me? Or was he lying and just embarrassed of me?
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RositaV is spot on!
He knew the relationship wouldn't go anywhere.
When I was with my first girlfriend I never introduced her to my parents ...she wanted me to though. Once she mentioned it while we were driving - and we were in my parent's car and they have their driving licenses there.
That's the only time she got to see their faces.
I actually though really, really loved her. It wasn't consiously that I didn't want her to meet my parents, after we broke up (me dumping her) I realized because it was in the back of my mind that she just wasn't the girl that I could see myself with for the rest of my life ...hopefully though I'll find that girl someday and hopefully she'll find her guy someday soon.1
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