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K so, weather its his places or its yours, HE SHOULD BE HELPING YOU 50% OF THE TIME.
AKA - CLEANING
Just because its your place, doesn't mean he doesn't have to do anything. That's bull sh*t. Then tell him, WHY ARE YOU LIVING HERE?!.
A relationship is 50/50. One person cannot do all the work, for clearly you see what kinds of stress this causes on you. He needs to grow up.
When I was living with one of my ex's I always helped her around the house, aka cleaning, cooking, laundry, taking out the garbage etc etc.. You can't expect one person to do that every single week. It doesn't work. Its too much work for one person.
As for him not getting a job, well he's clearly a lump. And needs to grow up. If you wanna get back with him, you have to explain to him that there is something called an "income" in life, and that's what allows everyone to live. So if he doesn't wanna get on the "income" train. Then tell him to go sleep at the salvation army. (that's were all the homeless people go to sleep) Then he won't have to worry about cooking or cleaning or even taking a shower.
Sorry to say miss, he's just using you. Yes he may love you, and he knows he does, but his actions make it feel like he is using you without him acknowledging it.
He needs to grow up.