By some really weird way, I have just found out my ex-boyfriend of a year has taken his girlfriend on a lovely trip to Paris and there are loads of pictures of them all romantic and lovey-dovey. When I was with him he wouldn't take me anywhere. I said a number of times how much I wanted to go to Paris, but he would just say sometime in the future maybe. I was always hopeful. He wouldn't even take me out to dinner and always refused to have photos with me, even though he said I was beautiful.
I know I need to get over this hurt, but I am just so down trodden and keep asking myself why her and not me? He was emotionally abusive throughout our relationship and I got fed up and broke up with him. He said he was devastated but 4 weeks later he already picked up this girl, and some of our mutual friends obviously thought he was wrong because they all started texting me if I was OK, when they changed their relationship status on Facebook.
Sorry I know I have asked loads of questions on this break up, but I just cannot get over the hurt. Why is he treating her better than me? Anybody know how I can get over it?
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I don't know what's in his mind but maybe he was really devastated from the break up with you and learned from your relationship, he is doing with her the things you wanted him to do with you, maybe at the time you wanted he just couldn't take you to Paris or something or if you have waited longer or give him the chance he could be doing these things with you, but as you broke up, while he was devastated he was analyzing the relationship, what went wrong, how can he improve himself and all those things, and that's why the next girlfriend gets a better version of him, that's what we all do isn't it? Learn fRom our mistakes and improve ourselves, now about how to get over it, stop having contact with him, like stop stalking fb or looking at his pictures, if you have mutual friends tell them you don't want to know anything about him, if they are not close friends just hang out with the rest of your friends that aren't friends with him, get rid of anything that reminds you of him, if you don't feel like you can burn or trash stuff, put everything inside a box and leave it somewhere in your house where you don't see it everyday/ all day long, like hidden somewhere, now if your ex has a girlfriend doesn't mean you need to get a boyfriend asap, use this time for yourself, think about the relationship too, learn fRom your mistakes, think about what you don't want your next boyfriend to be/have , find a hooby, do the things you like, work out, keep your mind busy :) don't run into any relationship while you still have feelings for him. Focus on yourself for now.1