Fast forward I am 10 weeks post BU and I am back in CA. I continued to contact him almost every day for those 10 weeks. He had said we could be friends, but he doesn't initiate contact. I contact him and sometimes he ignores me for a few days at a time. When he does respond its sporadic. Yes I do cry, beg and plead which are the big dont's. I ask him if he loves me, he says "I love you as a friend" and his feelings are gone. But at the same time he doesn't even act like a friend. He says I need to forget about him, leave him alone, and live my life. I asked if maybe one time in the future we can potentially rekindle, he says "time will tell". One time before I left NY he did tell me "I had all the qualities he wants in a woman, I made a good housewife, I was the best girlfriend he had, and maybe we can reconnect again in the future. After telling me to leave him alone, he still responds to my texts. Why doesn't he just block me and completely ignore me? I asked him that but he doesn't answer that question. He answers other questions though. He has a line on my cell plan, he pays the bill so I need to contact to give him the info monthly
My questions are; Does he want me gone for good? Do I have a potential chance to reconcile? Do you think he really isn't ready for a commitment? I don't know what to do, so confused. This is by far my hardest breakups. Shed some light, I am borderline the crazy ex if not, I am already the crazy ex
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Never beg for a man! He will just take advantage of you! If he wants to walk, let him walk. Yes, I understand you love him, but he obviously does not love you enough to tell you the things he told you. He wants to sleep around and be a manwhore? Who says that to the girl they love? Don't fall to the ground and beg for this man. He obviously wants to play, so let him play. Let him see what life is like without you. It may take him a while to see it, and by that point you will be strong enough to realize you deserve better.
I also moved out of state to be with my now ex. I had nothing going on back home as I quit my job a few months before and was pursuing another degree. We were long distance for a while, but when I moved out here, I started to see his true self. He promised me the world. Said he wanted to marry me early on and throughout the relationship. He was a good guy and treated me pretty well, but when we had disagreements he would run away. I didn't like that. I need a man to stand by me through the good and bad. He had a major ego and would act as if he were superior to others. That was a major turnoff and made me distance myself. I figured eventually he would treat me that way. He started to express his opinion that I shouldnt' go back to school, when I was working very hard to do so. He wanted to be the "Boss" and being the independent person that I am, it made me realize he was thinking about himself, and not what I wanted for my life. I can relate to how you moved away to be closer to this guy, but he is treating you very poorly. I know you can't see it now, but you deserve better.
My boyfriend broke up with me over the phone while I was away. I was going to move away for school and told him many times I couldn't stay, but I couldn't break up with him as I loved him so much. So he just randomly did it and regreted it when he said it, but I told him that was it. He was pretty nasty to me on the phone, but I stayed on the line for a few hours. He expressed interest in talking in a few days and I said I couldn't. We haven't spoken since. It's been complete NC. It wasextremely difficult at first. WIth time it gets better, but I do relapse. I checked out his online profile and he still has our pictures up, so that brought me down again yesterday...and back to thinking too much.
You need to let go and do NC for your own sanity. The way he is acting and cutting you off so abruptly tells me he wants to date or is dating someone else. Did you move back to NY and back again to Cal? If you need someone to talk to you can message me on here. I can relate to the move. It sucks, but you'll be so much stronger with time. Let go!
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