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This is why you go 'no contact' with exes. Nothing good comes of it.2
This is why you go 'no contact' with exes. Nothing good comes of it.
When a guy is super insecure, and more importantly immature, he will strike out in desperation to control you (or others, etc.) By calling you names and judging you he's trying to manipulate you into feeling bad. Secretly he hopes that you'll come running back into his abusive arms.
But the reality is that it's up to you and your maturity level to dictate how you respond to his behavior .
We teach others how to treat us.
So when you explain yourself to him (when he's behaving this way) you're really approving of his behavior , and therefore he wins control of you through bullying and manipulation.
But when you ignore him, and push him away, you keep your personal power and you distance yourself from a lunatic.
How you deal with him, or avoid dealing with him in this case, will dictate how you feel about yourself, and the health of future relationships.
Don't allow his pathetic rants upset you and certainly don't justify your life to an idiot like that. You are better than that, and you deserve to be with someone that recognizes that.
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Wow what an a**. Clearly you're better off without him. Not only did he break up with you, he hates it when you move on? Does he expect for you to wait for him? Or pine over him and never date again? I understand it hurts when a recent ex dates, but not if your the one that did the breaking up.
Anyways I agree, this guy is too immature for a relationship, and has no respect for women. Calling you a whore and talking about banging sluts is just childish and idiotic.
Either try to ignore him or put him in his place. Not sure the type of guy he is, if he'll leave you alone or escalate this. If you need to, don't be afraid to get some help from friends, or if things get extreme, the police, if he harasses you too much. People often never go to the police when they should. This doesn't warrant it, but just in case it gets bad since he seems to have a temper.
BTW, it's great you're going out, just make sure you're not just doing a 'rebound' with another guy. It's bad to lead someone on like that.
This shows he's too immature for any kind of real relationship. That should reassure you you are better off without him.
Tell yourself you now have proof breakin gup was the right thing to do.
"Heaps of sluts.."" Lol, that brings images to mind.
he's just insecure. feeling jealous that you aren't pining in your room for him... plus since you said you were hurt and then went on a date with a guy he probably feels like you aren't actually that hurt.
I think the only clear answer to this is that it sounds like you shouldn't be contacting this guy. OR at thedon't need to be telling him about your potential romantic life as it is not productive in the least
what should you do to cope with it all? not talk to the ex, move on. Or if you think that you want to get back together with him understand that discussing dating and things like that will probably only serve to creates friction between you two
Lets cut to chase. "CUT THE TIES WITH HIM".period.
It doesn't take a rocket scientist to see how crazy and immature your ex is being. He's only saying these things to you because he's jealous and insecure. He's also saying these things to you because it's working! He's succeeding at making you feel bad, at getting you to answer him, and to keep you from going out with other guys. He's winning right now.
The second you recognize him for the idiot he is, and give him the attention he deserves (none), is the second he loses all power over you. It may seem more complicated than that right now, but I can assure you it isn't.
PS If you need anymore proof of how irrational and stupid everything he says is...HE'S threatening to sleep around with "heaps of sluts", and calling YOU the whore. Sound rational?
Okay, well by the end of sleeping with "heaps of sluts" he is going to have itchy balls and probably discharge.
That's the most gross thing to say.
Who is he kidding?
Your relationship...any type of relationship with this guy seems unhealthy.
I can already see the dysfunction aren't even together!
If your communication is like this now...I can only imagine how it was in a relationship with him.
If you two are over...then you need to be over.
Cease contact with him completely!
He cannot expect to break up with you, and then for you to continue acting like his girlfriend.
hey! I can understand its hard getting over a guy whom you really love... but come on! you are so much better than that and you are allowed to go on a date with another guy especially if he's the one who broke up with you. You can do whatever you want and showing him that will make him rethink about his "influence" on you. If he does what he says then he really is not Worth even looking at. Have you heard the quote: "It baffles me how after tasting caviar men settle for catfish?" Go and have fun and meet other guys and trust me you'll feel a lot better
A guy who tells a girl she's a whore should go f*** himself. Do you really believe he can and will sleep with every girl? There's no way he can do that,unless he manages to hook up with every cheap slut drunk in a club(which,dear isn't a thing to be proud of ,lol). How long were you two a couple? He feels bad for breaking up with you,he still isn't over you,which is why he's bothered. You can't just go to dinners,hoping you will move on.It takes time. If you're doing this,you can actually hurt the other guys who think they have a chance with you,when you think of them as some rebounds.
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