I have a man that I love, we are very good friends and do not hold a monogamous relationship as we live long distance, but we do care about each other, we are basically trying this out. I visited him and things were wonderful in the bedroom especially for him, I have to say it brought me great happiness to see him receive so much pleasure from what I did. However, he usually keeps himself very controlled when we are together, hence the reason I wanted to help him truly just be out of control and I succeeded. However, when we were done, he layed there for a moment while recovering and then out of bed he went. Immediately to the bathroom then when he came back into the bedroom, out to the living room he went, turning on the tv, fixing himself a drink all this at 4 in the morning? I walked out asked him if everything was OK he said yes, I gave him a hug and kiss on the cheek and told him I was heading back to bed, about 30 min go by and he walks in gets in bed and moves all the way from his side over to mine until his back was smack against me, basically it was as if I came over to him to spoon. In the morning I was leaving, he seemed different, quiet, I gave him a hug, told him I loved him and off I went. we were to see each other again and he cancelled? any clues as to what happened?
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What might of happened is that since he is usually in control (this is what he is used to) and you was able to get him outside of his usual boundaries (out of control). Once the sex was over and all the blood ran back to the other head, he realized that he has lost control and you had control over him and that may have made him feel uncomfortable. He probably didn't know how to deal with that since it was not his usual self and doesn't have the mental framework and experience on how to deal with that. So he had to remove himself from the situation until he had some time to deal with his thoughts and feelings. So either once he had come to terms with what had just happened, or decided to just not deal with it at all and put it aside, he went to bed. Since he snuggled up to you, I'm thinking he may have come to terms with it at least on some small level.
You might not want to make what ever you did a regular part of your sex life right away, but you might want to try it again (or something similar) at some point in the near future to see how he reacts. Maybe things will be better the second time? If not, you may have to dig a little deeper with your questions instead of accepting a simple "yes" if you don't think things are really OK. Tread lightly though.. :)0