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You're young. I'm in the military myself, and I have my bachelors working on my masters. I feel like her excuse about being worried is half way selfish of her. of course, people will worry about your safety. But come on, you will be in Chicago for your basic training. you won't be going anywhere just yet. Your career is important. Do not settle for a job that pays minimum wage without secure benefits. The fact that she doesn't want to wait is a clear sign that she might not wait while you go off to make a better future for yourself and her. She is not worth it (no matter how much you love her) if she doesn't want you to be successful. I believe she is only thinking about herself and what she WANTS right not. She wants money, and she is trying to get you to give her money now. If she loves you, I mean truly loves you, then the fact that you have dreams and want to set out to achieve them should make her happy and supportive. Your instincts are right. She is currently holding you back. As soon as you are shipped to basic, the faster you will be paid lumps sums of cash that you would never make in 2 months while working at McDonald's and subway. if its meant to be with her, it will be. She might cheat while you're gone, so keep that in mind before you say she is the one. Majority of the time, military personnel actually end up finding their true loves in the military as well. I can't believe she wants you to work at subway rather than join the navy, smh. She might be gold digger homie. It will hurt like hell to break her off, but I promise you the quicker you set out to basic, the faster you will get over her and her selfishness.