How many times do you take back someone after they break up with you?
What Girls Said 34
I have never been broken up with, so my honest answer is "I don't know".
I would like to say never, but I don't know if that would hold accurate. It would really depend on the reason. Did I do something to hurt that person? Did that person break up with me to hook up with someone else? Etc.2
zero. debatably one...debatably...it has to sort of not be a real break up. like just a big fight or something. because I strongly believe that if it didn't work out the first time...it won't the second...third...fourth...etc... and to move on is just best.1
i've only been broking up with once nd i would never take them back only cause i have to much pride. but it depends on if u messed up or if he did1
I'd only give once chance. Sometimes time apart makes you realize how important a person is to you.
Past that, absolutely not.
When I was younger I had a long term boyfriend and I broke up with him 3-5 times. Each time he'd beg for me back, or I'd wake up the next morning panicking when I glorified the good things and ignored the bad. One time was after extended time apart but the problems were still there. I notice a lot of people tend to do this too when they want the relationship to work out despite it not after multiple attempts.
As an older/wiser person I'd only give both myself and my partner ONE breakup chance for the relationship.1
Once, they decide to break up with me again then they don't deserve my time1
Never. Never get back with an ex. Watched people always taking the same person back and it never works, they end up completely breaking it off and then they moan about wasting all that time.1
I only ever get back with an ex if I have legitimate reason to believe it'll be different than the first time. Which has been never, so far.0
I guess you just take them back when you feel like being with them again. I don't think there's a set number. It's about your feelings0
Never. Once broken up, I never look back.1
It depends on how the relationship ended.0
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What Guys Said 12
I make some allowance for emotional outbursts. So, if we were having a heated argument and she says that it's over, but then she comes back a few days later and says that her emotions got the better of her and that she doesn't want it to be over, then I'll take her back, in the sense that I would pretend that she never said it was over. If she does something stupid during the time we were broken up, like having sex with someone else, then we would remain broken up. Likewise, if we remain broken up for a weeks (i. e., she doesn't come back quickly and acknowledge her emotional outburst), then we would remain broken up. However, some breakups occur during times when the woman is calm and collected. I take these break ups a lot more seriously. I will not take a woman back if she breaks up with me this way.1
They made a choice, and that choice was to live without you and be fine with hurting you, once that line is crossed it's hard to really trust them again.
Because love is respect, you don't respect someone if you think its fine to hurt them.1
Zero. Nada. Zilch. Not happening. Fuck you person that left me.
^ that's how many times.
You want someone who is willing to leave you for "freedom" (aka to whore around). Or do you want the girl that wants you forever without have to see if there is better.1
Five times, but each successive time she has to deposit $500 in my savings account and cook an amazing vegetarian dinner.
Kicker? On the fifth time, she has to buy me a Cadillac!
I've never made it past the first :(0
I have never gone back to an ex. They became an ex for a reason. That reason most likely will not change.1
It depends what it's for.
I made the mistake of doing it once. It seemed like sometimes it was "minor" stuff that could be changed... but the girl didn't change... (or would change for a week, then just go back to her old ways). They were things that were small, but were signs of bigger problems that will show up in the relationship in the future. I doubt I'd do that again.
If you're married, the dynamic is a little different. I hate to be judgmental about whether it's a good idea for someone to break up (unless it's CLEARLY unhealthy... like emotional/physical abuse)... but if a girl or guy lies about something, that's the other person's decision on whether it's worth it to get back together with a person.
Around where I'm from, it's limitless.1
Never. Only 1 chance in life.1
Never happened before. There was a reason it didn't work the first time.0
Girls who break up and get back together all the time are almost always drama queens. Hot and worth a few rounds in bed, but nothing more. Once they cause drama, forget em0
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