Me and my boyfriend had lived together since we first got together. Since then he has this hobby on chatsites, texting, sexting etc. He says its just a hobby but has never met up with anyone. Yes, I'm hurting but you know...he says he's sorry promises he will stop. He sees me crying and hurting deeply and I can see it in his face how he's hurting me. But back in January of this year I found out that he got a hotel roo. I wouldn't have found out if he hadn't slipped up by leaving behind his timesheet for work. It was a Friday night he got off way to early. So then I confronted him by calling him on his cell while he was at work , but he wouldn't tell me until he got home...i asked him where he was that time he left work..(mind you he has no ctar..he's been using my car to work) he sounded afraid in telling me where he was. Well he came home..i confronted him, at first he said nowhere..I broke down he said he was at room...but the chic never showed up .( ya rite)...but sonehow he was really convincing...so of course I believed him..and by the messages on his phone chatting with that girl...the messages looked as yes he got stood up. I know that shouldn't matter...bcuz he tried. I told him it was over but he didn't want to leave..i told hin to get the fuck out. He sounded very sorry and made these promses...well til this day I have ni trust but continusely take him back. Just last month I found out again he has cheated on me twice..i just had a miscarriage last month on the 2nd and he knew I was stressed because I knew something was up with him but he wouldn't stop and just be honest with me. Well a few weeks ago I seen a text on his phone..the text said some hotel name...i was furious and angry I calles the # it was sone chic trying to deny she doesn't know my bf..he too denied he knows who she was. Well long story short they knew each other and he ckaims it was just oral..but 2x..i was so EXTREMELY HURT AND I STILL AM, I'm TRYING MY BEST TO LET HIM GO. BUT AT THE SAME TIME I WANT HIM IN OUR LIVES because OF OUR DAUGHTER. I HAS NEVER BEEN HONEST WITH ME EVER. I FIND OUT THE CRAP HE'S DOING ON MY OWN..WHY can't I LET HIM GO? I KNOW HE WILL do it again...but I don't think I can live without him..i tried to break it off so many times but I end up taking him back. I cry everynight and day and he says I dwell to much. He is the type that is not open with me, but wifh the girls he's chatting with its way different. How do I let tbis sick guy go? Iam so desprate and I can't think straight. I love him so much it hurts. He hasn't really trully apologized or even admitted he made a mistake, but does he tell me he loves me and no1 will sver take my place, why the hell do I put up with this crap? Please help anyone. My oldest daughter from a previous hates him. When she was younger she was sofond of him. But she sees me crying all the time, and I don't want both my kids seeing me hurt. Anyone, how can I move on without him?
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He's selfish and absolutely no good. He's tearing you apart emotionally and completely ruining your life and your daughter's life. Nothing good will come from the relationship.
Do you have a support system of family, friends, and neighbors that could help you when you boot this loser out of your life? You have to do it - yesterday!
Remind yourself when you do it, he has absolutely no respect for you. You have to respect yourself and your daughter and do what's right - for both of you. As difficult as it will be, this isn't time for emotions. He's a jerk and he's screwing you over; taking advantage of you, over and over again. Guys like that deserve to be hung by their balls in the middle of town square to be ridiculed by all. He makes me sick. And to call sexting a hobby... My god. I really think I'm gonna puke.
You're not alone on this one because it sounds like you really need help. I'll support any way I can if you want.2
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