OK so we went out for five years -- but I have not seen her in 6. It was not a bad breakup -- just a little sad. She is 2.5 years older than me, and in girl and guy terms, that means she was very mature and focused and I was still a boy. Weird thing. The state took over the house where she was renting an Apt -- and paid her $10K to move! So she moved farther out into the boonies and bought a condo. A smart move. But I was a city boy -- still working on my degree and immature and unfocused about a future path. Now -- she was ready for kids. And I am like -- where can I find ANY job in my field? Long story short, we grew apart not only because of the distance physically, but at the points in our lives. Of course the breakup was not easy -- there were tears when she slept with someone who was close by. Then when I did -- I guess to pay her back. Ya. I was that immature. But now six years later, I see her Mom passed away, and all that time we spent together came rushing back. Funny thing is, we never fought for the first 4 years and everyone was like...ya...Kathy and Marco...that's a lock. SO, given the time that has gone by, would it be creepy to call her, or a nice gesture to tell her I was sorry to hear about her mom? I did call 4 years ago. It was nice, but she had a boyfriend, and I did not want to disturb the peace. Yes, I have gone out with girls since then, and it was physical, but I never felt soul like this girl. Anyway, I am 31 and she is 34. Too late? Let it go? Or at least try one more time -- and let the chips fall where they may? Thanks!
Should I call her after 6 years?
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Well, I say call her and say you're sorry about her mom, at least that.
Then, if she's not in a relationship and is interested you can meet and try to fall in love again...
You see, just like you changed a lot in those years, she has as well, so you'll have to know her all over again and see if you love the 34 yo her.
If you get to this conclusion, and she's single or in an non-important relationship, open your heart to us. The fact that now you are more mature will very probably change her mind if she still think about you!0
Definitely call her and definitely let her know how you feel...just tell her if she is ever single again, that you would love a second chance...why is everyone so afraid to say what they are thinking...what is it going to hurt? She certainly cannot read your mind...how would you like it if you waited to tell her and once you got the nerve you find out that you had missed your window of opportunity? Do it now and just nicely tell her that you are still interested and for her to let you know if she is ever available to see you ...communication!0
Part 2 ( see below ... it would not let me add more )
And the therapist said, "By saying 'that makes me angry' " ...uh no, we certainly did NOT express our anger appropriately! LOL
Communication is so so important and so many people suck at it...myself included...but I am learning...good luck!
( I have learned the hard way not to say things that you do not mean...you may realize that you were just saying it out of anger or hurt, but the other person usually does not forget those words...)0
If you really want it then go for it otherwise you'll spend your time wishing you had of contacted her. Just try not to expect too much too soon though. I hope it all goes well for you though! :) Good Luck!0
amazing story...out of curiosity was she your first love? so you always used to think of her even when you were with other girls?
I think it depends on the girls, I'm they type of don't likes hearing from the guy after a relationship is over,because for me when something is over then I'm working hard to get over it, and I don't need anything that reminds me of it...I just need to let it go...but it depends every girl girl is different, I think you should try for your own sake and that's an opportunity for you to do it...good luck0
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