Ok so me and my ex girlfriend had been together for a year before she broke up with me 2 weeks ago. We are both 20, our relationship was extremely serious we both felt like we were soulmates etc we went to Paris after 2 months of our relationship, then Egypt after 4 months. Just to show you how serious we were about eachother.
Fast forward to this situation and she dumped me because she said if I don't earn more than her by the time it's time to get married she will never marry me and leave me. I thought this was shallow and just disagreed, I didn't even get angry or anything even though I did think it was shallow I just was like no I disagree etc. After saying that she wanted to cuddle in bed as normal and I just wasn't in the mood for it, so I just stayed on the other side of the bed. She then got angry and dumped me, saying she doesn't want any contact until Jan 28th which is the end of our Christmas holidays. She left, blocked me on messenger and Facebook. Took a picture of us down on Facebook and blocked my number. It's been two weeks and I have felt a whirlwind of emotions sadness that she blocked me but then also relief because it's for the best.
Anyway so I'm in the process of getting over her and forgetting about her and moving on but her behaviour has changed now. On Christmas eve at midnight when it became Christmas day she unblocked me on messenger, usually I send out happy bday/merry Christmas at midnight. She unblocked me and when I came online and didn't send her a merry Christmas she blocked me again. Next day she unblocked me on Facebook, didn't add me or message me but just unblocked me, why I don't know. 2 days after that she now calls me? I don't pick up then she texts me saying she feels ready to talk to me now after the break up and wants to see how I am coping? Why would she do that when one she said no contact till Jan 28th, 2 she dumped me so why is she even contacting me. What should I do as well, I don't see myself responding because I don't even want to speak to her I have exams to focus on and I don't want her back so I'm just going to ignore it, what do you think?
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My take is that she dumps you very casually and changes her mind frequently. I doubt that she expected you to hold out for so long. I'm sure she wants you to accept her back so that the cycle can continue. I see no problem with allowing no contact before Jan 28th since she set that date. If you relent you will be starting the cycle all over again. That's okay if you have firmly decided to break it off with her for good and you want to get it over with. Waiting has the advantage of forcing her to live with the uncertainty of her stupid and cruel games for an excruciatingly long time. You need decide what you will tell her when you do talk. If you break it off, I suggest you have nothing more to do with her ever. Any contact would be treated as a step on the path to reconciliation. If you want to make another go of it, I suggest that you tell her that she cannot break up with you and expect to get back together like that. Dictate a time of no contact (say a week or two) and hold very firm on it. She needs to suffer consequences for her horribly selfish and irresponsible behavior. Ultimately you would need to get to the heart of why she does it (getting a rise out of you is not a good explanation) and train her out of such childish behaviors. As I write it seems like so much effort that it makes my head spin!1