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I think you understand the situation well. You both have strong feelings for each other but the things that separated you have not been dealt with and they are very painful. Those things will keep coming up until they are dealt with. That might never happen if they require change that one or both of you don't want to make or don't see as needed. If keeping the relationship alive was not incentive enough to make the necessary changes, a possible reconciliation might not be either. Is there something you can do to meet him more than halfway? It's not really fair to be the one to do more than your share but nothing may develop otherwise.