Basically I had been with my girlfriend for nearly 8 years ,I'm 32 now so was 25 when we met, we had are ups and downs , like anyone else , but things got really messy, I suspected a couple of months back of seeing someone else,
I was really on to her about it, and eventually she broke up with me in November,and later I found out she had been seing someone else, I was hurt about obviously,but I'm not one of those needy types never asked her to come back ,
I have excepted the split , and am moving on , but part of me still loves her, I have looked over the last year , and I can honesty say I didn't give her much attention,and I'm mature enough to relisei contributed to the break up, she kept telling me , and I didn't listen , mainly as I have had a bad financial year and the pressure took its tole,
Any way she's been ringing and texting everyday , I have answered her but I'm not the same with her, I know she's suffering and I know she still loves me, I have talked to a few other girls , not for a rebound because I know it dosnt work , and I'm not desperate
And can wait , I don't know whether to try back with her or move on,
We also have a son
Good advice would be appreciate
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It sounds like life got in the way of your relationship. After 8 years together, you know this happens. You seem like a very mature lover in that you can empathize with the loneliness she felt. Is she as capable to empathize with the hurt she caused by straying?
It seems the financial pressure made you switch off, which made her feel unloved. Perhaps you two could benefit from a frank discussion about ways in which you can support each other when you're in crisis.
If you can get on the same page regarding both accepting responsibility in the situation, and are both committed to working together during a crisis, I would say give it another shot. It is great that you are not blinded by love for her. It is a better mind space to be in when making such a decision.