That was until last night, when I told him how I was feeling, how I didn't see the relationship continuing in this way. He broke down, sobbing. I've never seen him cry before, it shocked me. I desperately tried to ask him what was wrong and why he was crying and he kept shaking me off and not wanting to tell me. Eventually, I told him I'd leave if he didn't tell me, and there was pain in his eyes, he didn't look at me and he told me that his uncle's been sexually abusing him again. I knew this had happened to him in the past but I thought it had STOPPED for definite. I couldn't believe it when he told me this. The most recent occasion this happened to him was on Sunday, and it's been happening approximately twice every three weeks. He has changed a lot, and I'm not sure how to help him, his uncle is very big, I could not hold him off, if I was ever there when it happened.
My heart breaks knowing this and I can't let it go on but he has told me not to go to the police, because his family would break down if this came out (he is right, his family is very unstable as it is). So what the hell can I actually do for him?
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Is there a way you can report this to the police? Will the police do anything if you say your boyfriend is being molested and you know who it is? If I were in your shoes I would take this matter into my own hands and call the authorities and get this uncle in trouble. I know he doesn't want his family to know, and such, but this is for HIS well being. He can't put this aside just because of his family! What his uncle is doing is criminally wrong and morally wrong, and he needs to get trouble for it. I know you are stuck, cause it does seem like a "stuck" situation cause you are the girlfriend, but I think what you should do is go to great lengths to get his uncle in trouble weather your boyfriend approves of it or not, cause your boyfriend needs help and he needs to be out of this situation for good. He is in fear of his uncle. His resistance to going to the police about this is very common amongst sexually abused victims, cause they are "fearful" of what is going to happen to them or it might make the sexual abuse worse, etc.
I feel for you, and I am so sorry you are going through this! I would seriously disregard what he's saying and if I were you I would take the matter into my hands, cause nothing is going to be solved, and he won't be free from this unless authorities are involved. So please for your boyfriend's sake call anyone to get his uncle in trouble. Your boyfriend is going to let this abuse escalate cause he is in fear, this happens to almost every sexually abused victim. Help him out of his deep hole, please. Also he will need extensive therapy to help with the trauma. Hope I helped, and I hope everything works out. You can email me if you want and keep me updated! My heart breaks for you and your boyfriend, take care!