I feel so naive and ignorant. I dated this really sweet guy for five months to learn that he has a girlfriend. But he was still with me after he got with her. He disappeared on me, making excuses that he was busy working and hardly had time to relax. Its just...why would he do such a thing when I treated him so well? I'm not interested in sloppy seconds.
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I had a similar experience for a year, sweetie, so I can relate..I was a booty call, a convenience, and just a trophy wife figure, who he could take off the shelf whenever I needed "dusting". He always said he loved me, but actions DO always speak louder than "minced words"...He rarely text, (calling was almost NEARLY NEVER)only when he was feeling lonley or frisky, and always the ol' excuse that he was busy, that his "10-12 hour an hour night job" was leaving him little time for anything else, but yet, when he was not seeing me, he had plenty of time to fit in his best bud and other potato heads, and Arabic like himself..I was just a small fragment of his circle, being an American and he could be "comfortable and cozy' with me when he felt the urge...I felt ignorant and ignored, and took him back a few times when he would screw up royally( Mind you, he was good in the beginning, but then he started taking me for granted and my love and goodness). This one holiday, which was New Years, I put lover lips to the test, and at the stroke of midnite, he failed miserably. No New Year text, no call to say "Happy New Year!" The day after New Year's Day, at 3:11 AM, when he knew I was sleeping, the "text of all texts" came in, almost like an obligation, so I let two days go by and text him back, probably making him feel like the heel I knew he was all along. He got the hint. Put it to him diplomatically, was the best way with a nerd like this. I didn't hear anything back, so FINALLY, I HAD hit a nerve with the nerd. He didn't even have the goalies to explain himself or even apologize. That time, I knew he and I were through, and do you know why? Because his best bud was his "main drain", not me..He was MORE into him than he was ever me, and I also finally realized, that at the stroke of midnite that nite, he was probably "stroking another', and I don't mean GIRLS, either...You are right in forgetting this dud, and right---"NO SLOPPY SECONDS"---or SECOND HAND TREATMENT neither. You deserve much better. These type are sporadic, unpredictable and emotionally unstable in committing in a long term relationship. Believe me, they are MORE into themselves, than they are into you. In my case, my vagabond was MORE into GUYS, than into GIRLS.0
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