Alright so my parents are getting divorced pretty soon, my mom is giving my dad the separation papers this Tuesday.
Long story short my mom is not happy with my dad and hasn't for a while and she just can't take it anymore.
For the past month my dad has been telling me about things about that he shouldn't have been telling me. Pretty talking about things but making it should like its my moms fault for literally EVERYTHING. So he's been putting me in the middle of everything. I Haven't heard anything from my mom and released the things my dad have been telling me are not even close to being true. So I'm on my moms side with everything and just lost trust for my dad.
So for people who have been in this kind of situation or their parents getting divorced as well...do you have any advice for me?
Thanks in advanced
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Honey. The worst part of parents divorcing is what your dad did. The children have nothing to do with the divorce. They should be told only what they need to know. But parents will bad talk another parent. Making you feel like you need to choose sides. But, for your father, he is probably afraid that you will hate him, he failed at marriage which can be demasculating. He doesn't want to lose his children too. It's a painful time for him. Doesn't excuse him talking about things he shouldn't. It's just his way of defending his position as your father. He may feel he failed his kids too. Don't chose sides. You need to just tell your dad that what he has said hurt you and you don't wsnt him or your mom talking bad about each other. You just wsnt a relationship with him. I don't know what happened in their relationship. But this is a painful time for him and her. You are not responsible for being the councilor. Your job is being the child. As a divorced parent, my children were never thrown in the middle. They saw their father, and now that they are teens they make their own decisions. I just support and love them.
How do you feel about the divorce? How had this affected you? Do you have someone to talk to about this? Divorce sucks, but it sucks even more when parents drag their kids into it. Don't be afraid to speak your mind. But always be respectful they are always going to be your parents.1