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I think that with everything you and he are going through right now, and the way you "took out your angry frustrations on him," it became suddenly too overwhelming for him, and he decided he needed a "break." And "break" he did, leaving just before the surgery in order to "exclude" himself physically--and emotionally right now---in your life. Another words, he got "cold feet," and doesn't want the attachments and everything this involves, just friends, and has asked for "his things back" which tie him to you--and a relationship he may feel right now he doesn't want--or cannot handle. By him wanting his things back, it allows him to feel less pressure, which will enable him to get a clearer picture, and not feel "cornered like a scared mouse." As sad and heartbreaking and unfair as it seems--and is---he feels he needs space, time to think, and if you love him, be patient for now. By doing this, knowing you are also there for him, may slowly enable YOU to cope. Abide by his wishes, sweetie. Perhaps this will give him an opportunity to "know how he feels." I think the "full mouth" gesture was to INSURE you that he does still love you, and not to forget him, nor he you----or what you both have shared in a beautiful relationship of both love and sentiment--but he just needs "a moment." How long "a moment", time--and God--only knows for certain,sweetie. I don't believe you have "lost" him, your "amazing guy," I think he was also letting you know, he will be around, and you too, "hold a special place in his heart," and always will. Patience on either side now is truly a virtue. As you recover(My prayers go out to you with this surgery), give him time as well to "recover from everything that is hard to cope with right now." Good luck, and God bless, sweetie.