Basically I'm 20 and me and my ex were together for a year, she dumped me a month ago, but she had dumped me every week for the last 2 months of the relationship only to apologize the next day and say she loves me. It was always over something petty and small and looking back I think she did this to control me, she was quite controlling and manipulative. The whole reason we broke up was because she said if I don't earn more money than her when it's time to get married she won't marry me and will leave me. I didn't agree, I wasn't rude we were just debating at that point I just was saying love is more important and you collate salaries anyway so why should it matter as long as both partners are working hard. afterward she wanted to cuddle and I wasn't in the mood after what she had just said, the mood was a bit awkward and tense so I wasn't in the mood she then go angry and blocked me on everything possible, facbook, whatsapp etc.
Anyway so since then I realized I was blinded by love for a year and that she really was a terrible girlfriend it wasn't all bad I mean if it was I wouldn't have loved her. But looking back I'm glad to not be with a person like her anymore. But I have a dilemma since the break up she repeatedly kept contacting me, she told me after she broke up with me she wanted no contact for 6 weeks but messaged me after 2 weeks after how I was coping. I didn't respond and then a week later she messages again, I was totally over the situation so I just respond acting friendly I had no hostility at that point she is however rude so I just stop responding, she messages me again and again and the same thing happens. Me trying to be friendly and her being rude, anyway so I decided I was done being friendly and just wanted to move and forget about her as she is in the past, she messaged me again asking a trivial question. I responded this time and she was trying to make conversation so I answered but just wrote could she stop contacting, thanks. She got angry asking why, is it her personality and I got a bit angry that she wouldn't leave me alone so said yeah I don't want to be friends because you personality is terrible after she kept prompting me asking me why etc. She then says she's glad she left me, never regretted it, should have left sooner, I'm fat broke and immature, no respectable girl will ever want me etc. I just replied that's great glad you feel better now stop speaking to me, she kept going on and on until I eventually just stopped replying then she blocked me again.
She then unblocked me the next day saying she found one of my posessions at her place and was going to leave it for me to pick up at the university reception. That was today, anyway I didn't respond to that, just went to pick it up and that was it. But I can't help thinking that all this hostility and hatred is unhealthy. I don't really want to hate her I want to feel nothing for her, which I do but each time we speak I keep feeling hatred...
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U have been too civil with her, she is a rude person with no values or respect for human beings.She does not deserve a Thanku. be done with that beeeeeotch..and I will bet when you are both mature adults later on in life and you are loaded, have a nice car and a beautiful wife and kids, she will feel the wrath and kick herself,her loss, you sound like a sweet heart0