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I wouldn't mind if my boyfriend was "poor," but only if he was working toward financial independence. If he is in a low-paying job and we can't afford to go out that's fine, as long as he is working hard in his job to get promoted or is going to school to try to get a better job.
Also, I don't care how much money he makes as long as he is not relying on me. I'm not going to be the only one working hard in the relationship. And if we don't go out or buy gifts for each other because we are saving money then that's fine, but not if he's just gonna go spend the money on something else instead of saving it.
If you eventually want to buy a house with your partner and raise a family with your partner, then you need a partner who will be able to save up the money for that. If your current boyfriend is living paycheck to paycheck and not working toward improving his situation then it is not selfish to dump him. You have different visions of the future and you can't expect him to change just because you want a different life. So I think you need to explain your feelings to him and move on to someone who lives a more compatible lifestyle.