I have attached bellow a text I sent to my ex. (I texted her because when I talked to her she would never listen to anything I would say about how I feel.) It was after we broke up from a 8 month relationship and she was being incredibly unkind and callous. As well I found out 5 days after we broke up she was back on Match.com. Then, a friend of mine, playing vigilante (unbeknownst to me) struck up a conversation with her on match. Here are some brief highlights. She claimed her last relationship was more than a year ago. When asked about our relationship she said that wasn't a relationship at all so she wasn't rebounding from it. She said she never loved me and had tricked herself as well as me. That because she never loved me it was OK to just break up with me for no reason at all. At any rate she said some really unkind stuff and I was hurt so this is what I sent:
I am so deeply hurt by the things you said to this Justin. Even if you never loved me which I don't believe how can it be that you have no kindness or care left for me whatsoever. To act and say the things you have said to me with no remorse or feeling for me at all is almost robot like. To say that we never had a relationship so you have nothing to rebound from was possibly the most hurtful selfish thing I have ever endured. To say that you think its somehow fair how you broke up with me is insane. What did I do to deserve this treatment from you. This complete uncaring and indifferent attitude. You have ruined every fond memory I had of my time together with you and your son. Made me regret every minute wasted. You are truly the most selfish, self-centered and unkind person I have ever met. Please get some help before you get into a relationship with someone and hurt them.
She tries to cal 6 times in a row the night I sent it but my ringer was shut off then left a message. She was angry claiming that untrue things were said about here and she had done nothing wrong and wanted a call back. I called back and left a message but never heard a thing. I never really wanted to talk to her anyway. Your comments?
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I agree with yopyopyop and yaddayaddayadda02. I say you should have done the mature thing and not have sent her the text, or you should have at least toned down your anger and frustration in your text.
At that point in time there was no reason to bash her with insults. It gained you nothing but disrespect and hatred from her and angered her in the process. Sharing your feelings of sadness and hurt, to some degree, is one thing, but you should never insult or criticize anyone or say or even think time with them was wasted. Time with someone is never wasted. It's to be cherished, and lessons should be learned from it.
Personally I think you owe her an apology. You should man-up, call her, and apoligize. A text would be inappropriate, as would an apology in a vmail message. Leave a vmail message if you'd like to tell you'd like to apolgize, but apologize to her while speaking to her.2
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