A year ago I met this amazing guy. He was funny, cute, made me laugh and he was my best friend. A month or two after we met, he asked me out during school. When we dated we had such a good time until a month into it he messed up and was flirting with a girl younger then myself who happened to be a friend. he asked for her number and the next day when my friends called me and told me what they witnessed, I broke up with him and went out with my awesome mother. I gave him a chance to explain two days later and after he did, I took him back. We lasted another two months until he broke up with me around October last year (2012). I was so upset that I went out with a girl I barely knew (who is know my best friend literally) and I hooked up with someone he happens to be close with. It hurt him and I hadn't realized what I'd done until I realized that I had seen his face and how upset he was. It took almost two months to gain his trust and for me to make it up to him. But when we got back together he had been communicating (flirting) with same girl that I broke up with him for. I made a big deal about it, texted the girl told her to leave him alone.. We got in a fight about it but eventually he saw it was hurting me. Around January we were finally getting back on track to where we were in the beginning. HAPPY. Around February we ended up having sex for the first time ( his and mine). It was big for me. But two weeks later he broke up with me saying he didn't know why. I cried for about two whole weeks and became angry when I realized that he was messing with another one of my friends (LONG STORY SHORT: She's crazy and he set himself in a trap because she harassed him for a month). One day when I finally got over it I was hanging out with a friend of mine when he drove over to our school and showed up with his friends. He took me away and dropped his friends off and apologized asking if I was still mad at him and hell I was but obv we got together again only for it to go bad within a day because the crazy girl fought me in school and my mom pressed charges against her. She left me alone afterward but me and him ended up breaking up two weeks after that. Then soon after the break he found me during school and told me he did something bad. He hooked up with another one of my close friends that I'd been friends with since 6th grade. I didn't talk to him or her for about two weeks until I gave him another chance... He was leaving for basic training soon and broke up with right before he left saying he couldn't deal with my emotions because I was upset I couldn't be with him his last day in town due to my family situations. I didn't say good bye to him because I was so hurt that he broke up with me for nothing really. He cursed me out we argued and it was the last time we talked for three months until school started again.Wegotbacktogetherandbrokeupfourtimes.My birthday was yesterday and he ignored me completely and I'm really hurt by that.
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He didn't set himself in a trap. He willingly ditched you. Deliberately. Stop telling yourself things that make it seem like he's the innocent guy. This is why I tell people to wait before having sex. It WAS major for you. Your virginity is designed to bond you with one very special man. This guy ain't him. Unfortunately now you are bonded on a deep level with this jerk, (Because he was your first) and you will be, for life. You can bond with another man, but not like how you bonded with this guy, unfortunately.
The cure, of course, is to find a man, who is loving, caring, and connects with you on a deep level. He can heal your heart, and you can learn to trust again. I am deeply sorry that you continue giving this jerk of a man chances. He does not deserve them. He has a ton of maturing left to do.
You made a mistake... Now it's time to move on. You CANNOT trust him. Charisma does not equal honor.
Stop giving him chances, you are only hurting your own heart. Please. Just stop.0