when she broke up with me she did it really fast I just showed up at her place and she met me out by my car and told me it was over, probably only took like 3 minutes. So I just feel like if I could meet up with her one more time and get a little closure it would help me move on. I really don't have any intentions of trying to get back with her the only reason I would be meeting up would be so I could get a better understanding of what happened.
So do you think it would be a good idea for me to call her and ask if we would meet up and talk? and if so where do you think would be a good place to do it? we both live with our parents so I just thought that might be awkward if we went to either one of each others houses, and I thought about going to eat somewhere but I don't know if its a conversations I would want to have in public. I've had a bunch of people tell me not to contact her cause she's the one that broke up with me and I should wait to see if she tries to contact me, but I'm just thinking if its already been a month and she hasn't then its probably not going to happen.
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I'm sorry for your loss, sweetie, but with from experience with even a man in this sort of relationship, that women can be just as unstable emotionally as a man, for that matter. I see it a lot on here myself. With every good apple, there is a bad one, red or green, in the bunch.
Many of today's guys are sporadic and unpredictable. So it seems with girls as well. With that being said, one doesn't outweigh the other, I suppose.
You and your girl had a long three year relationship. You didn't mention, during this time, if she was giving off any mixed signals to raise a red flag. You simply said she suddenly broke it off, not feeling it anymore, and obviously, that included YOU, as well.
If you think back to the moments that led up to this "sudden spurse," I am quite sure, that if you think back to the moments in which may have brought you to the point where she-----met you out by your car, and told you flatly and ----flat out---that it was over, something will raise its own flag with you. To me, it seems pretty harsh coming from someone, in just three minutes flat, to tell another whom she has been with for THREE years, that it is over. She may as well have told you in a nonchalant voice," Turn off the TV, show's over."
To me, when you said she "did it really FAST," tells me that she probably had someone else in the "background," let's say, someone she has probably been seeing during your relationship, deciding in the end to call it quits.
With quickly just pushing off this button that she so deliberately wanted to do, she just wanted to do it without: Explanation, didn't want to "see you cry," hear any more about it, and blah, blah, blah. End of discussion. She was also probably guilt ridden as to WHY she was breaking off with you, and for all you know, her new beau may very well have been sitting in her family's living room sipping a soda. Think of a similar movie, sweetie. Happens all the time.
She became this snake charmer, and now you see what's inside her skin.
Of course, for some closure, you could contact her and meet her in a cafe for a cup of Cappuccino, just to "meet up and talk." I don't see a problem with it. Find out what you can, or even if you CAN, get her to meet up at all. It's been a whole month, so let's be fair, and say, with or without a newbie, she has had some time to think things out. Give it a whirl. All she can say at that point is either 'yes or no,' and make it either under three minutes or---over this time.
The way I see it, you are telling yourself you just more or less want a closure, but if I know a heartbroken, determined man, he has other ideas, if even given "one last time."
If you haven't heard anything in a month, I do believe in my own heart, she has moved on to something or yes---possibly someone else---and has no plans, at least right now, in reconciling with you. But who knows what the future could bring again? But ask yourself: Could you ever really trust her again?xx0