I thought I could be friends with her, but I can't. I asked her out a long time ago and made things uncomfortable, until we finally worked things out.
Ever since then, she has been "wary" of things I do. At first it was uncomfortable but little by little it got better, but I knew it was still on her head.
So when I find out she had a boyfriend, I told her I was very happy for her and that, maybe now that she is attached, she could drop her defense and that nagging feeling in the back of her mind and we could be friends, like she is with other guys and is nice, relaxed and approachable instead of sarcastic, teasing and "on defense" like she is with me, but she said that the feeling was still on her head. So now its even worse, when she was single and had that feeling, I could let it go because a) she was single and b) I wasn't trying anything. Now, since she can't let it go, it makes me uncomfortable because I feel like she thinks I'm trying to make a move even though she has a bf.
She has been super nice to me and we get along awesomely (even though we rely on sarcasm and teasing remarks) but I feel I need to do this for my own peace of mind. What can I do?
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What do you mean you are not trying anything? Of course you are. And it's okay, thing is, you made your move, she said no. Now, either you accept she doesn't have that kind of feelings for you and you can be friends, or it's too uncomfortable for you cause you still have feelings and you need to put some distance. Either the distance will make her realize that maybe, and it's a big maybe, she could picture you differently. Or it will just help you to move on and open up to someone new;1
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