soooo my ex and I broke up about 6 months ago, after a solid 3 years. I mean I've flirted a little with the few women I still had any sort of relationship with during/after my relationship with my ex, but I can't seem to take the next step. I want to, but there's something within that kicks me in the stomach and tells me to stop being stupid. just wondering if this happens to anyone else or am I the only one? 3 years and then 6 months following that is a long time, I don't even remember how to talk to a woman, especially those I don't know.
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Wow, 6 months?
No not too long at all, If something is stopping you, you are not ready!
3 years is a long relationship, and everyone takes a different time to feel ready for the market!
You talk to women by being yourself, how you would talk to your freinds, with some wooing added!
When me and my ex stopped seeing each other, it was 2 years untill I went on a date.
I know to some that seems a long time, and I'm not saying that's how long it will take you.
I just didn't feel like it, for a long time I didn't find other men attractive.
Glad I stayed single for so long, I started to enjoy it. had a fair amount of heartbreak so having a long break from relationships was good for me. It got to the point where I then couldn't imagine a relationship but did want the closer male company I didn't get from friends.
I started dating again, a couple people it wouldn't have worked out.
Then I met my now boyfriend, I was so resistant as I had been alone so much. But he managed to very slowly woo me to the point of no return and I absolutely adore him.
6 months really isn't a long time. Give yourself time to enjoy being single. When the time comes it will feel right, there are no rules.
Go with your gut feeling. Better to be someone who is ready to put every thing into a relationship than someone that is still not quite over the last one. It's fairer on the new person, and fairer for you.
I actually had a one night stand after 2 years being single, I never do that, I hadn't had sex in 2 years! But I think it actually helped me move on even more and realize I wanted to date again. Then I took it slow with my boyfriend, as I didn't want to be hurt again. We went on lots of dates and it was well over a month before we slept together.
I'm not saying a one night stand is right for you, it can make people feel pretty crappy. But in some cases it does help.
But for you right now, I think you should take all pressure off yourself giving your self a time limit as when to feel ready. You will know when you are.
For now, get out with your mates, have a laugh and talk to new girls. Talk to them like you just want them as a mate, to help you gain your confidence of speaking to new women.