Okay so I have been dating this girl for almost 2 months now and I thought we were doing great and we had planned out the entire day for today. I even took a day off work so we could be together for the whole day. This morning I went to pick her up and gave her flowers, chocolates, and a pretty nice necklace as her gift. She looked really happy at first but then she started tearing up. I asked her what was wrong and she said she couldn't take the gifts because she was leaving me. I was so shocked that I almost dropped the gifts from my hands.
I asked her why and why wait until now and she said, "I'm so sorry I actually was really starting to like you but I made a friend a promise. Alyssa says hi" Then another guy came to the door and asked "Who's at the door babe?"And that's when I actually dropped the gifts and she closed the door on me with tears still running down her face.
Alyssa was my ex and she left me because I cheated on her with her best friend at a party when we were both really wasted. I know I deserve what happened to me today but that happened over a year ago. She must have been planning this for a while which is kind of crazy. But it definitely worked since I really liked this girl and I guess she was starting to like me too. I gotta hand it to my ex though that was really well played. This is definitely my first time feeling this way and I guess that is how she felt when I cheated on her so we are even.
I know I shouldn't but I really want to call her (not Alyssa) and tell her that she really broke my heart this morning but if she has feelings for me still (which she clearly does) we shouldn't throw away a relationship that we were both happy in just because my ex wants to get back at me. I'm not even mad at what she did because I know I deserved it.
I cheated on her and can't ever change that but it was a mistake that I will never make again after feeling how I felt today. I think the guy that came to the door was just a friend she had acting like her boyfriend because most guys would not be okay with their girlfriends seeing another guy even if it was all planned for revenge. My plotting ex was probably watching the whole thing from inside for all I know.
Do you think I should do that or just leave it alone, move on and learn from this experience?
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She made a promise to her friend, your ex, and went through with it, even though she had or has feelings for you. I think the chance of her giving in and ignoring that (mean) promise to that friend is very slim. I'm afraid, if she wants you back, she has to make that decision herself and do it because she wants to. If I were you, how hard it would be, I would just leave them all alone.
I wouldn't show them how hurt you are, that's just what they want (or at least what your ex wants). I would ignore them, what they do or say and try to move on from that.2