Trying to keep it short: I had a car wreck over a week ago. Totaled the car, was hospitalized and etc...Well, I don't even remember, but apparently when I woke up from being unconscious, I texted my him about being in the wreck. I then, apparently lost consciousness again and woke up in the ambulance. He was acting weird after the wreck..being distant and unresponsive. A few days later, he said he thinks the long distance hit home for him and he doesn't think he can do it anymore. He has been cheated on before by his ex whom slept with all of his friends. And, he is REALLY insecure. I just don't know why he is just throwing us away. He hasn't really even given us a chance. We met online through a game! And, we became friends..which led to having very deep feelings for one another. We have a lot in common as well..which led to the feelings.
Background: He lives in the UK and I live in the US. The day before the wreck, he told me when I came down to see him, he was going to buy me a ring so that everybody would know that I was his...He told me he loved me..He gave me all his bank info to get money for the flight and we were even looking at apartments to live together.
I am contemplating whether to just forget him altogether, or to keep trying. Every time I speak to him, he says he is just scared, got cold feet, and always pushes people away that is why he has been single for 2 years.
Guys what do you think? And, girls, have you been through this?
- Forget himVote A
- Try harderVote B
- Other...Vote C
told him I still loved him but I am about to give up because I didn't think I was being treated right. :/ He responded saying : I'm sorry! I never meant to hurt you!
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He has some maturity issues. Mainly, with not allowing you fully into his heart... He is terrified of letting you in past a certain point, because of his past pain. Keeping his heart closed off prevents pain, but it also prevents him from loving you the way you deserve.
He needs to know what he is doing. He is obviously a sweet guy. But until he knows what he is doing, and taking the "Safe" route", which is guarding his heart instead of being vulnerable with you, things will be "Like this" with him.
So talk to him. You must use all of your feminine charm and wiles, and coax him out of his little box. He MUST feel assured that you WILL devote yourself to him at ALL costs. Are you? If not, why should he open his heart to you?1
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