Anyway, how do I end this gently? I don't want him to get angry, if he is already acting this way, I'm afraid of how he might take it.
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Step 1: Adopt the mentality of 'Who the hell does he think he is?" This does wanders for a woman's self-esteem and ability to make respectable decisions.
You need to GENUINELY BELIEVE that this guy is totally out of line and inappropriate (which he is). Believe it, think it, and feel it so much that you can't bare to waste anymore of your precious, divine energy on someone who lacks so much respect. Yes, he could be unstable...which is why you are going to be smart and remove him from your life before he brings you chaos and drama. Don't be afraid of him.
Step 2: Lie to him about going through a lot and not being ready to be in a relationship.
Normally, I'd say, be totally honest and upfront, but chances are if he's a psycho and you say "Look dude, you are being very abnormal and all of this possessive behavior has turned me off of you as a love interest", he's going to throw a hissy fit and might start stalking you. So it's best to just assertively tell him, "This isn't going to work out. I have so much going on in my life emotionally that I need to fix. The last thing I need to do is be in a relationship." TELL HIM, DON'T ASK HIM.
Does he know where you live?