I have been dating my boyfriend for ten months. We have been happy as can be... at least I thought so. He is currently in basic for the navy. We are both 21 (if that makes a difference) well, he has been letting me borrow his laptop while he's at basic as mine is crap. While I normally access Facebook on incognito mode today I opened Facebook in the regular window. He forgot to log out. I'm not going to make up any excuse to say I was right for doing this... but at the same time I wanted to make sure I wasn't being paranoid... as he is so overly protective of his phone. Anyway, I went on his messages an saw that he was messaging one of his ex girlfriends. He told her that he was now single (which he isn't) and that he wants to kiss her and hold her and be with her. She has a bf and has reciprocated the same feelings. Even though she said she was looking for engagement rings. Anyway, how can I go about confronting him... as he's in basic and the only way to contact him is via letter? Should I just remain true until I go to his graduation and then break up with him? I need to do it face to face... otherwise I won't have my closure. So writing him to tell him is out the question. What would some of you do if you were in my situation. I feel so betrayed and hurt and unloved right now... I'm not sure what I think.
There have been two bad arguments in our relationship where he could have called it quits but he never did. Like I've literally told him if he's unsatisfied to break up with me. He never did. Yet, he's messaging her and staying in a relationship with me? What does that even mean?
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I'd dump him personally, for one thing i'm ex navy and most of the guys were unfaithful... I personally wasn't because it's not in my nature although it did end my relationship being in that job. But if I wanted to cheat I could have, and it would have been easy to get away with it... unless you're an idiot you should be able to cover up being with another woman, especially when posted hundreds of miles from home. I'd leave them because they most likely won't change and they'll be constantly tempted to cheat. If other guys aren't telling them 'it's all part of it' etc... it'll just be the fact that it is easy for them to cheat.0