He has always said that our relationship is a very special one, and I think so too, but I don't really know that for a fact as he is my first boyfriend, so I don't really know a good relationship from a bad one. I feel as though if I had more experience from dating with other people, I would feel a bit more confident.
In addition, he is a handsome guy, but recently I have been having difficulty being sexually attracted to him. I'm not sure why, but after a chat with one of my friends, she suggested that maybe I felt more as if our relationship was very friendship based, not so much romantic. And I think that I agree with that idea too.
He has been talking about more long term relationship things, such as marriage and kids a bit down the line, but I am way not ready for that. I used to like hearing him talk about the future like that, but now I'm not so sure.
I am only 20 years old, which is the "prime of my dating life", and I am worried that I may almost be wasting this time with a guy who I may not see myself ending up with. That being said, he is a great guy and he is probably one of my best friends and I don't want to hurt his feelings.
So I am lost for what I should do! Should I wait and see if it changes? Should I break up with him and (do the horribly cliche thing) ask to be friends in the future? Or what? Any personal stories or advice would be so welcome.
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Loving someone is hard, and being with him for so long I can see that you do love him. But staying with someone out of obligation does both of you a disservice. He deserves to be loved fully, the way he wants to be loved and you deserve to seek the life you want. It would be fair to him for you to playact just to avoid being the bad guy and it wouldn't be fair to you to not have the life you desire. I mean, are you really only thinking about his feelings or are you avoiding the responsibility of hurting him as well?
All that's going to happen is you will end up resenting him, he will be confused and hurt and you're going to break up anyway. Maybe you will manufacture something to blame on him to eventually get what you want. But he deserves honesty, especially if you care for him.
The sooner you're honest, the sooner he can get over you and move on. Yeah, he's going to be pissed, but that is the price you will have to pay for your freedom. And you do deserve to live the life you want.