So while me and my ex girlfriend together she was always jealous of my best friend (who was a girl) Me an her would always go do stuff together and it made my girlfriend very uneasy. We have been best friends since second grade and now we are sophomores in college. We even made sure to go to the same colleges. So after 2 years with her I figured she's get over it, apparently not. My ex always called her a "slut" or "whore" behind her back and to her face she'd say stuff like "can you even see me"? (My best friend is Asian ). So I broke up with her recently. And after a couple weeks found a spark with my best friend. I went to my annual family picnic (30+ family members) and she's gone since 4th grade. We had to go get a frisbee from a tree and she went up, she fell and I caught her and we kinda looked at each other and kissed. Everyone was tellin is that it's about time and stuff. Lol. But back on track. I can't think of anyone I'd rather be with now. I sometimes forget to call her my girlfriend cause when people ask I say she is my best friend. So we decide to go to Jamba Juice one day where my ex works. I proudly hold my best friends hand into the store since I knew my ex's work hours and she wasn't supposed to be working. I walk in and she see's me. My ex breaks down and cries in the store. When we get our drinks. She throws them at us and starts yelling, and she tries to attack my best friend. She was fired from work. And stopped going to her classes an flunked out of school. Now she's back at home with her parents most likely going to a local junior college, and I heard from mutual friends she's in therapy. Her life basically fell apart after I left her. Is it all my fault? Or what... I feel extremely guilty, but I want to hurry up and move on to this amazing chapter in my life. What do you guys think?
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I really doubt her breakdown is all your fault. When people have breakdowns like that, it's often because of various different reasons. Seems like she wasn't all there to begin with, what with being super paranoid/jealous and really rude to your girlfriend. I feel like anyone who overreacts like that over a breakup simply can't be too normal. Yes, breakups can suck and hurt you really badly, but not to this point. That was very unhealthy behavior, so you shouldn't feel bad. You shouldn't have stuck with her just because it would have made her happy. Sometimes you have to be a little selfish in order to move on and "evolve". Breaking up with her was probably a good mood, because if she really does have mental problems, it probably would have affected your relationship a lot more later on.
I also think that it's kind of normal of you to call your current girlfriend your best friend. She has been your best friend for a much longer time than she has been your girlfriend. It's only natural that it takes some time for you to adjust to these role changes.
Basically, don't feel bad. Your ex has obviously 0 control over her emotions, and the fact that she let herself flunk out of college just because of the breakup shows lack of character which really has nothing to do with you.0
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