As the title says, there is a woman who I like and who seems to really like me -- we've had some great and intense and intimate conversations about all kinds of things, and we enjoy each other's company and just "click". I'm pretty sure she would pursue me or invite me to pursue her if it weren't for the fact she has a boyfriend, and seems really attached and intent on making this thing work, even after twice breaking up (but getting back together).
I wouldn't normally go for a woman who is already in a relationship, but her boyfriend is not a good man -- he is possessive and controlling, and spent time in prison for dealing drugs.
My question is: what do I need to do, besides continuing to be a good friend, to win her from (or take her away from) her current boyfriend?
I would also like to hear from women who were in that position -- who had bad boyfriends but who left him for a good man who they had fallen for while still dating the bad b/f.
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i just got out of a situation so similar to yours
it was a really big drama between me and him to get her and i lost to him , i know it is not a game but it feels like game , she was and still though so confused and now she did make her choice and she chose him over me even i am super qualified than him but i made some mistakes and other factors play role in this situation like :
The Time -Friends - the race - the memories - the phone - the experience - the patience
and to answer more your question here's what i think :
what you need to do is keep on doing what you're doing by showing her how much she can be and feel safe when she's with me , offer yourself as a choice and not as an option for her , you dont want to be an option for her
dont push her or force her to do anything specially against her boyfriend
do not ever try to compare yourself with her boyfriend << i mean in conversations <<
try in actions, if he treats her so bad you treat her like a queen
try to gain her trust more than now
and finally always expect that you will not win her and she may stay with her bf
i wish i could help more
i wish you the best