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You are NOT a fool!! You are a true man that truly loved a woman. It is not your fault that she turned out to be a bad person. I know it hurts and it will hurt for a while until you can fully heal. The great thing about your situation is that one day you will look back at your part in the marriage and be able to honestly say that you loved with all of your heart, and that you did the right thing. She will look back one day and realize how much of a horrible person she IS, she can never go back and fix the mess that she made and that will eat her up inside. I am speaking from my own experience, I was married to my first husband for 5 years and I was 100% faithful, honest, loyal, invested and in love with him and our life together. That is until I found out he was cheating on me, sadly I loved him so much that I forgave him over and over. After about a year of his cheating and lies, I finally got some balls and left him. So fast forward to now 7 years later, I am now happily married to my second husband (going on 6 years) and me and my ex-husband are actually good friends (mostly because we have two kids together), well anyways he has told me over and over throughout the years that he is so sorry and he regrets his mistakes every day of his life. He says I am the one that got away, he realizes that I would have never done anything to hurt our marriage/family. But he knows 100% that I am over him and happy with my new life, and it still kills him to this day. He knows he messed up bad, and that life will never be the same and he only has himself to blame. I don't want him to have a bad life, I want him to one day find happiness with someone else again. I just hope he learned his lesson, because he is setting the example that my children are learning from. I hope somehow this helps you. Just remember that you will be perfectly fine one day, but she will never get rid of the guilt and shame of what she has done to you and your family NEVER!