so to make things short. she really liked me at the being and i just kept pushing her away, we were not official but i "broke up" with her a few times with her and made her cried, but i always came back and slowly i started opening up. so it got to the point that i felt bad that i made her cried so many times, so i started to change. we were arguing a lot once we hit the 6 months period (i think because we were seeing each other 24/7). i was trying to fix things and i guess that's when she thought i was being too needy, because i was trying to show her that i cared, but i didn't realized that i was smothering her and the relationship. needless to say, we had a huge argument right before the holidays.. in the hit of the moment i said something that i regret saying "maybe i need to find someone else to make me happy" of course i didn't me it, i just felt that i was the only one trying. so she started crying and broke up with me. we did the whole back and forth for 2 1/2 months but it was very unhealthy, because i know the problem wasn't fixed, she'll ask me to take things slow back i'll freak out and break it off to come back a week later and do the same thing again. anyway, i found out that all she wanted initially was a break, but now even though she says cares a lot about me more than friends, she said that she doesn't see herself with me for at least a couple of months, and she wants to date other people because she's young and wants to experience things. she's 20 and im 25 fyi. did i ruin my chances for good? we finally agreed to stop talking for a while until things cool off, which has been a week now. and she already has gone on two dates that i know of.
My situation is a little complicated so any advise helps, the main question is has any girl ever taken back after she dumped him for being "needy"?
What Girls Said 1
well this is a sticky situation hahaa! that was very cliche im so sorry :p
you two sound like you have quite a few differences between you. nothing too great but maybe many small differences add up to one huge issue if they aren't talked out calmly and rationally.
i really hope that from all the times you made her cry it was just because she's an emotional girl and not cos you said something stupid. and if she cried then you know she definitely cared about you.
second i strongly feel like you should have a looong conversation and have an agreement right before that whatever you say is to try and make things clear and understand where the both of you are coming from. and you also really have to try to think really hard about what you're about to say. i completely understand how it was just inthe moment tho dw. this is just to prevent something else from happening.
maybe she wants a break because of what you said or maybe not. whatever the case if she's going to date other people i think you should too :) then if it's meant to happen she'll come back. BUT if she leaves again after that then i advise you to end it there. all the drama just wouldn't be worth it.
What Guys Said 0
Be the first guy to share an opinion
and earn 1 more Xper point!
You cannot undo this action. The opinion owner is going to be notified and earn 7 XPER points.