He deployed the day after, so I'm considering all my options. And to be quite honest, without him there is nothing keeping in the States.
Separation would financially be very difficult here and I'm not a fan of the lack of welfare and health care. The kids would still be covered but I wouldn't, while at home I'd get a higher child benefit, free health care, free child care, good schools, paid maternity leave and a lot of other things. It seems like the best option right now.
On the other hand, I don't think he's a bad person, he was under a lot of stress, with the twins just being a few weeks old and him leaving already. So I'm wondering if it's fair to him, to move to far away
I used to be in the army too (Swedish) and we met in Afghanistan. When he was reassigned back to the US we decided to get married and we got pregnant on our honeymoon. So we though it was a good idea to for me to stay at home for a while and I never took care of transferring all my qualifications. I have a medical degree tho.
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Oh that is a tough situation. Where did he slap u? Even though u didn't feel it and he was "stressed" doesn't excuse the fact that he laid his hands on u. Obviously u feel the same way. Just bc u have the means and opportunity to run away doesn't mean u should. How was ur relationship otherwise? Do u feel that it was a little rushed, maybe both of ur feelings were undeveloped before u tied the knot and had kids? Bring it up the next time u talk... if he acknowledges it and apologizes profusely, I would give him one more chance to redeem what he did. And I mean a whole lot of flowers, making it up to u, and just plain old ass kissing. If he beats around the bush or ignores ur attempt to allow him to make things right then I would leave. No forewarning, just go. Him ignoring u would speak volumes. IMHO it means that he'll always avoid pressing situations and nothing will ever get resolved, or in an attempt to resolve hitting would be the answer.
Best if luck to u and ur kiddies, Hun.
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