I love this girl to death and I want to get back together with her but I found out she got a college acceptance letter to Seattle and Massachusetts and wants to go. I don't want her to go because I was planning on getting back together with her soon. She also is the mother of our son who is a month old. I feel like she has no right to move away and if she does I should be going with her. I've been talking to her a couple of times and she said she has a better opportunity over there and she has relatives to take care of Jason (our son) while she is in school. And she doesn't want me around him because I'm a bad influence. This is what she told me "I don't want my son to be raised by a cheater and a liar." I did cheat on her maybe twice in our relationship togerher but overall I still want her back. She has no right to move away from those who love her the most.
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You should be happy that she got accepted to this college.
However you have every right to be bothered by her decision without consulting you. I mean he's your child too.
The question is, and look deep inside yourself before answering it, will you actually be a bad influence on him? Or are/will you be a responsible parent? Or a dead beat?
Because if you're not a good one honestly it's better just to not be around him at all.
Once youve decided this try to compromise with her about you being in his life. How you are also his parent. How she might have carried him and gave birth to him but you also played an important role for him to even exist! How you are apart of him.
Hopefully you two will come to an agreement but if not you know there's always court. But even then unless you get/want custody of him it's going to be hard for you to be in his life in his early stages/years because you can't just fly a baby back and fourth and I'm sure you have your own life not to mention traveling is expensive!
But I am really glad that you are trying to be apart of your childs lfe and trying to be a family by getting back together. I mean for peat sake you were willing to move with her!
So good luck to you and hopefully everything will work out for the best =)0