A question about cheating. Who's really the home-wrecker?

Cheating seems to be a very passionate subject on this site. Cheating seems to get the type of reaction that only Politics and Religion usually get. Home-wrecker is what people are called when they get involved with someone who is in some sort of relationship.

Are they really home-wreckers? I mean isn't the person that is in the relationship and cheating, the one who is potentially wrecking their own home?

Also I think that more people on this site have cheated then are willing to admit.

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  • It's mostly on the committed person in my opinion. They are the ones breaking a vow, breaking someone else's trust, betraying someone, etc.

    I do think that people should take special care to avoid committed people, though. It's just the right thing to do.

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What Guys Said 4

  • You are correct, the person who has the home to be wrecked is first at fault, the problem is that once a person know that there is a committment involved they should step away. In the past people would not go near or respect the marriage because the contract had God as a partner in it.

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  • have never cheated, have never homewrecked. however, if you know you're having sex with a person who's married, you are a homewrecker. it was your intention to have sex with them

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  • This is a relationship advice site so a lot of people are going to be anti-cheating.

    A homewrecker, in my opinion, is someone who cheats with someone who has a family. Spouse and kids. It could be just the husband and wife but I think the term applies to those with kids.

    Both are obviously to blame and both can be the homewrecker (s). Cheating is a two way street. No one is more at fault than the other although the one who is married with/without kids is going to get a lot more flak because they have a lot more to 'lose' (for lack of a better word).

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  • It depends, I guess, on how you view the situation.

    For example, some women absolutely refuse to believe or understand how important sex is for a man. They could easily side with the wife who has stopped having sex with her husband, whereas most men will side with the husband when the wife has stopped meeting his sexual needs.

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What Girls Said 6

  • Even if you are not married and are in a serious relationship and you are fooling around behind your partners back you are cheating. the person who is cheating is the one who is responsible for messing up the relationship. I was a escort a long time ago (5plusyears ago) and I got caught my boyfriend at the time and it messed up our relationship. Even though I was getting paid to provide a service it was still cheating.

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  • Oh the cheater is absolutely to blame for his/her choices. But the person who gets involved with someone knowing that person is in a relationship is also to blame for their choices.

    Both are scum.

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  • It isn't right on either part but yes the person in the relationship is the one who should be held accountable.

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  • The relationship would have fallen apart anyways so only partially

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  • They are both just as bad.

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  • The door swings both ways. Neither person is scot-free. Each is equally as responsible for "home wrecking"…*unless* the sidepiece is under the impression that the person in the relationship isn't in one…in that case, they're not at fault.

    And as for your last comment, you may be right, but I never have : P

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