I started dating this guy in January. He pursued me very hard, taking me on fun dates and telling how much he wanted to take me off the market. Initially I was hesitant to start dating exclusively having been through the relationship ringer in the last year. After we had been on a couple of dates and he continued to tell me that he wanted to date I finally agreed, feeling that he was a genuine guy who had my best interests in mind. By the end of February , my now boyfriend tells me he MIGHT have to move back to his home town to find work after he graduates in May. At this point we had become very close and he had told me he was in love with me. Within days I could feel him becoming distant even though we are still seeing and talking to each other regularly. By the beginning of March he tells me that he doesn't want to be in a committed relationship because it's not fair to me that he can't give me 100% while his location and career are up in the air. I expressed to him several times that I wanted to continue dating until he had to leave (if he had to leave) and that if he did we would explore our options when it came to that. So we have continued to see each other and date (unofficially) since and I have gone back an forth on getting him to commit to me while he is here. Yesterday I had barely heard from him and days and asked him what was going on. He said that he is in love with me but needs space to figure things out. He told me to go on dates and have fun, and that he'd be happy to take me out occasionally as friends. I made it very clear that I had no intentions of seeing other people, but that if space is what he needed I would give it to him. The truth is, I REALLY want to be with him. The question is, is this guy over me and using moving as an excuse to be non-committal, or should I hold on in hopes that he will realize our relationship is amazing and find a way to make it work?
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You need to pay strict attention to the two things he's said. l) "By the beginning of March he tells me that he doesn't want to be in a committed relationship because it's not fair to me that he can't give me 100% while his location and career are up in the air.
2) "He said that he is in love with me but needs space to figure things out. He told me to go on dates and have fun, and that he'd be happy to take me out occasionally as friends."
Both of these spells trouble for you regardless of what you want. I can't say that this guy is completely over you, but he's been trying to make it clear that he doesn't want a girlfriend right now. He may be giving you some excuses and he also may be exaggerating some things. Best for you to fact up to what's happening and let him go for now. Maybe in the near future you can contact him and ask him how things are going. If he's missed you and wants a chance to get back, he'll certainly bring it up. Meantime, be available to go on dates and have fun like he suggested. Good luck!1