Ok so me and my ex broke up, we were together for a year for a long time in our relationship she had a problem with my female friend. Me and the girl spoke maybe twice a week just over text nothing over the top like calls or meet ups in person i never actually met up with her just one on one ever and we had been friends for 2 years. I met the girl at my uni anyway she would cry over it and say why can't i just cut the girl off n stop speaking to her and i'm just like she is my friend. We end up breaking up over other things like her thinking eventhough i'm doing a law degree that i won't end up successful and i'm not driven and passionate enough for her so she wants to find a man who will be successful so he can pay for the whole household so she can stay at home and work part time but keep the money for herself.
We are both 20 by the way and at university so i don't know why she is thinking so far ahead anyway, so together for a year broke up for 3 months. We get back together but she says i have to block the girl if i want to be with her, it was either her or the girl. I do it and she pressures me into doing it in a cold way, i wanted to call the girl and talk to her she got upset and was like i should just text her a cold text like "you caused problems before so it's best we don't speak" and then block her. I did so because i wanted the best for our relationship. A week later she breaks up with me over her doubts again about my future success. How do i get my friend back, it's been a week since we broke up and me and my ex still speak as friends. I feel bad for cutting of my friend like that when it wasn't even worth it, i actually did it because i loved my gf and wanted us to work. Anyway should i call my friend, we never speak on the phone so it's not like we have loads of call convo's but i really wanna express how sorry i am for cutting her off like that and explain. Or should i text her like hey and see how she responds?
Most Helpful Girl
I feel sorry for you because you were manipulated more than once in that relationship. If a confident woman has insecurities about her man's relationship with another woman then there is some foundation for it but in your case your ex was just petty.
But the real issue here is your friend. Personally i wouldn't take you back as my friend. You let a girl who proved herself to be petty, manipulative and self-seeking break up a friendship. I wouldn't be able to trust you not to do that again if i was your friend.
If you want her friendship back a text message is not sufficient. You need to do this in person. Take her out for coffee or go for a walk, but the conversation you need to have with this girl has to be face to face. People can hide behind words in a text and things can be misconstrued if not said properly.
If she accepts your apology you have to remember that things are not going to go back to normal immediately. You're going to have to regain her trust. Being friends with a woman is not like being friends with a man. She's always going to have doubts that her friendship means nothing to you until you can prove her wrong.2
Most Helpful Guy
No, you should explain all the toxic aspects of the relationship. She's probably heard similar stories. But you can't just pretend it all never happened.
You won't get much of a reception with 'hey', that's for sure. She has a right to know why you sent her that kind of message.
I'm sure once you explain she'll be ok with what you felt you HAD to do, and who knows what the future holds now for the two of you? Obviously there's an attraction there; your ex could sense it even though you tried to mimimize it.
Never deal with a woman who wants you to 'qualify' financially; run the other way as soon as you get even a hint of that sort of woman. She will never be worth what she will ask of you.0