I think more and more that you've just gone through a break up... lately your takes have been extremely bitter notably towards men - quite misandristic in fact.
It bothers me how much people will treat others just based on their looks. Guess what? That hot girl is a human being and stinks up a bathroom just as much as someone who isn't attractive. Just like everyone else.
There's been relatively little change even with feminism of how we ultimately value/rate people in the dating market.
Women are valued on looks, fidelity and some tolerable level of being 'sweet' (if she's hot she can only lose value by being a 'cheating slut' or a 'total bitch')
Men are valued on power: physical, money, popularity, with looks second.
I'm not sure we're that likely to change those thoughts too soon. What people do learn when they're older is how happy they are in a relationship is driven by a combination of the other person's qualities combined with how the other person actually treats them and how well the relationship is going. Dating someone amazing who isn't in to you doesn't make you happy.
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It's surprising when a super attractive girl gets cheated on because the immediate assumption is that guys cheat for sex only, and who would want sex with someone else when they have this ridiculously hot girlfriend?
Of course a closer insight into cheating is it's partially a desire for sex but also has an emotional aspect to it. Which kinda ties in to the thought that "just because she's pretty doesn't mean she's a nice person."
Also, I have never in my life heard anybody say pretty girls *deserve* to be treated better. The only thing I have seen related to that is pretty girls sometimes *will* be treated better by those around her because she can manipulate people with her good looks and charm. But as far as relationships go, if people don't already know that good looks don't justify a shitty personality, they need to grow up.
That's so true. But it's not only in relationships. People tend to be more interested in you when you're good looking, whether you're just friends, working together, etc. This is so silly. I had a friend once who told me, speaking about this other girl, "I can't stand her, she's even ugly!" and I was like "WTH?"
lol this is so true I've something like that happened to me too. what I noticed is that even guys treat other guys better if they are good-looking which is weird. maybe they are gay deep down and don't know it yet.
So after I read every single answer as well as this whole rant I finally came to conclusion that most of the so called "hot" girls are attention whores (-_-). Just before you start bitching me over what I said remember there are a lot of exceptions.
Just to add my another two cents, I'm not surprised some guys go for average or chubby girlies as they are easier to get into relationship with as well as you don't need to put up with that whole bullshit/drama/jealousy/constant arguments etc.
I'm not surprised that our humanity and race is screwed over and aliens are scared to visit earth, after all, we would probably kill them as soon as we would see them as they are different colour and have weird eyes.
I feel sorry for your friend. - Aging will be exceptionally difficult for her. The agony of her first wrinkle - She too blows bubbles in the bathtub, no more nor less fragrant than mine - An ounce of weight gained is a pound of despair - She makes no deposits to her emotional bank account - The universe is indifferent to her looks. - Her entitlement is a false god and will betray - Unloved, she will die unwept, unhonoured and unsung.
It is only natural for someone to see a gorgeous girl and wonder why someone would cheat on her. It is just natural. It doesn't make them a bad person or anything.
I don't know what the point of this was... to bash how pretty girls get treated better than average looking girls? Not their fault they are pretty and society treats them differently.
I think, it isn't "pretty" girls that have the family saying they don't deserve the shit... it is the "spoiled" girls.
I do have an observation, based upon years of sad experience: if a lady is drop dead stunning, she is probably an evil bitch. The ideal woman is just a LITTLE bit plain.
Or the two out of three rule: you want attractive, intelligent and kind. Pick any two only...
"You know it's sad but true..." as the Metallica song goes.
That is sad but true. Usually when I keep my options open, the hottest ones are either bitchy, very slutty, or are just very boring and hard to talk to. Correlation doesn't imply causation but that's usually the case. I mean if I see a very hot girl I like, I don't write her off as any if those 3 but the traits come out as you talk to them more. Know what I mean?
@Curmudgeon@bloodmountain1990 I think you're looking at the wrong sort of attractive women. And I think it's got a lot to do with how they dress, resulting in their attractiveness. I know a lot of 'beautiful' girls. Not many of these naturally beutiful girls are shallow. My best friend is actually model material. Her face is gorgeous. She dressed like an old lady in dresses and sneakers hahaha but it works for her and it gives her an edge. It looks cute, it somehow works for her. Every uy I know would LOVE to date her. But she's with a rather average looking guy, and they're engaged. If you're gauging your attractiveness in women off of fake things, like lots of make up, fake fair, push up bras worn daily and tight clothes on the regular rather than just a night out, you're actually looking at an insecure woman who feels she needs these things to make herself attractive in order to get validation of her worth from men. Thus, they will indeed have an ugly heart.
Kinda. Though when it comes to predictors of future abuse, the ideal sexy woman is less directly associated with abuse than the ideal sexy man.
Compare, for instance, Christian Grey (female-written, sexy male ideal) with basically any male-written, sexy female ideal. There is usually few ways a woman can be sexy and evil at the same time, yet a sexy man almost HAS to be borderline-evil to give him the appropriate "manly edge."
Being pretty doesn't entitle someone to be treated better, it just happens to be what people do. Pretty girls are more likely to be let off the hook for being assholes, being dumb, being a bitch, etc.
This is why I love it when those women who are awful but pretty get older and lose their looks and start getting treated like shit. They start wondering why people are not as willing to accept their stupidity, ignorance, rudeness, or bitchiness anymore. They desperately claw at attempting a personality but end up just being pathetic and sad. It is the flip side to your post... just because a girl is pretty shouldn't make her feel like she is entitled to be an awful, stupid, ignorant, snobby person because she thinks she's special. If you want to get through life based on looks, you deserve the future you will eventually end up with.
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I knew a girl like this as well. After he left her and eventually dated someone else, she cried to my friends and I "How could he leave me and go out with HER?" as if that other girl wasn't worthy. The other girl was cute, nice, smart and funny. Not a supermodel knock out like the other, but way better in my opinion.
Well said. And when she finds a husbamd like that she will have problems as she ages and has the same attitude but hasn't come to terms with the fact that she lost her looks. Her hand selected husband who wants a pretty girl will then go looking elsewhere. Twisted irony.
That's why I avoid such girls. I never liked women with self-entitlement issues. That why I don't only go for looks alone. I go for overall personality and looks combined (She doesn't have to look like a model but she still needs to meet my own standard).
I agree, however you are missing one element here: YOUTH. Beautiful women only have a very limited amount of time to act like this. By the time they are 30 or so, yes 30, not so much. Men's interest will go toward the younger girls. I've saw many beautiful girls who thought they were hot stuff when they were younger end up more or less pathetic, be cause they made the wrong choices early on. They lose their power to attract men's attention and interest. Story as old as time itself.
How could this get a dislike? This is gold. Beauty fades- I really don't get why a lot of guys go for beauty because that which they value expires, whereas a heart of gold never does.
@JacquelineBuan um because a lot of girls still do it renewing the practice. a lot of girls do give their attention to the wrong guys, so now guys do it a lot more and feel justified. "Chivalry is dead, and women killed it." Dave Chappelle
Thing is... beauty is the gold coin of a woman's value. That's life. It's like how women are fiercely attracted to the sort of guys who have game and are the sort that might cheat on a hot girl... because it demonstrates higher value, brashness, etc.
It's life. Attractive women are more valuable in dating than non-attractive women, just as a Channing Tatum lookalike would have more value in dating than those nerdy fat guys who sit around a table at college playing weird laptop games.
Waitaminute... no... did you just say that... no way... In a slightly round about way did you say that prettier girls *really do* think they can and should get away with any sort of behavior... Or did you just say that society and individuals *tell them* that they can and should, but not necessarily that they *actually* do such a thing?
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I think more and more that you've just gone through a break up... lately your takes have been extremely bitter notably towards men - quite misandristic in fact.
Anon out.
My boyfriend and I are doing just fine lol.
And actually I'd say women are more guilty of this and body shaming... how misandric of me.
There's nothing in what she said that was against men.
It bothers me how much people will treat others just based on their looks. Guess what? That hot girl is a human being and stinks up a bathroom just as much as someone who isn't attractive. Just like everyone else.
Love this, love you, love these takesā
You got a good head on your shoulders, awesome job.
Thank you :)
No need to thank me, honestly just being truthful! :)
There's been relatively little change even with feminism of how we ultimately value/rate people in the dating market.
Women are valued on looks, fidelity and some tolerable level of being 'sweet' (if she's hot she can only lose value by being a 'cheating slut' or a 'total bitch')
Men are valued on power: physical, money, popularity, with looks second.
I'm not sure we're that likely to change those thoughts too soon. What people do learn when they're older is how happy they are in a relationship is driven by a combination of the other person's qualities combined with how the other person actually treats them and how well the relationship is going. Dating someone amazing who isn't in to you doesn't make you happy.
It's surprising when a super attractive girl gets cheated on because the immediate assumption is that guys cheat for sex only, and who would want sex with someone else when they have this ridiculously hot girlfriend?
Of course a closer insight into cheating is it's partially a desire for sex but also has an emotional aspect to it. Which kinda ties in to the thought that "just because she's pretty doesn't mean she's a nice person."
Also, I have never in my life heard anybody say pretty girls *deserve* to be treated better. The only thing I have seen related to that is pretty girls sometimes *will* be treated better by those around her because she can manipulate people with her good looks and charm. But as far as relationships go, if people don't already know that good looks don't justify a shitty personality, they need to grow up.
You should get microphone insurance. You seem to drop a lot of those...
Yeah notice the fucker has a little dent in it already.
That's so true. But it's not only in relationships. People tend to be more interested in you when you're good looking, whether you're just friends, working together, etc. This is so silly. I had a friend once who told me, speaking about this other girl, "I can't stand her, she's even ugly!" and I was like "WTH?"
lol this is so true I've something like that happened to me too. what I noticed is that even guys treat other guys better if they are good-looking which is weird. maybe they are gay deep down and don't know it yet.
So after I read every single answer as well as this whole rant I finally came to conclusion that most of the so called "hot" girls are attention whores (-_-). Just before you start bitching me over what I said remember there are a lot of exceptions.
Just to add my another two cents, I'm not surprised some guys go for average or chubby girlies as they are easier to get into relationship with as well as you don't need to put up with that whole bullshit/drama/jealousy/constant arguments etc.
I'm not surprised that our humanity and race is screwed over and aliens are scared to visit earth, after all, we would probably kill them as soon as we would see them as they are different colour and have weird eyes.
One would ask why you're in a committed relationship in the first place.
Great myTake anyway! And that girl is soooo shallow.
Thank you
Beauty is skin deep.
Ugly runs deep to the bone.
I feel sorry for your friend.
- Aging will be exceptionally difficult for her. The agony of her first wrinkle
- She too blows bubbles in the bathtub, no more nor less fragrant than mine
- An ounce of weight gained is a pound of despair
- She makes no deposits to her emotional bank account
- The universe is indifferent to her looks.
- Her entitlement is a false god and will betray
- Unloved, she will die unwept, unhonoured and unsung.
It is only natural for someone to see a gorgeous girl and wonder why someone would cheat on her. It is just natural. It doesn't make them a bad person or anything.
I don't know what the point of this was... to bash how pretty girls get treated better than average looking girls? Not their fault they are pretty and society treats them differently.
I think, it isn't "pretty" girls that have the family saying they don't deserve the shit... it is the "spoiled" girls.
I do have an observation, based upon years of sad experience: if a lady is drop dead stunning, she is probably an evil bitch. The ideal woman is just a LITTLE bit plain.
Or the two out of three rule: you want attractive, intelligent and kind. Pick any two only...
"You know it's sad but true..." as the Metallica song goes.
That is sad but true. Usually when I keep my options open, the hottest ones are either bitchy, very slutty, or are just very boring and hard to talk to. Correlation doesn't imply causation but that's usually the case. I mean if I see a very hot girl I like, I don't write her off as any if those 3 but the traits come out as you talk to them more. Know what I mean?
@Curmudgeon @bloodmountain1990
I think you're looking at the wrong sort of attractive women. And I think it's got a lot to do with how they dress, resulting in their attractiveness. I know a lot of 'beautiful' girls. Not many of these naturally beutiful girls are shallow. My best friend is actually model material. Her face is gorgeous. She dressed like an old lady in dresses and sneakers hahaha but it works for her and it gives her an edge. It looks cute, it somehow works for her. Every uy I know would LOVE to date her. But she's with a rather average looking guy, and they're engaged.
If you're gauging your attractiveness in women off of fake things, like lots of make up, fake fair, push up bras worn daily and tight clothes on the regular rather than just a night out, you're actually looking at an insecure woman who feels she needs these things to make herself attractive in order to get validation of her worth from men. Thus, they will indeed have an ugly heart.
Kinda. Though when it comes to predictors of future abuse, the ideal sexy woman is less directly associated with abuse than the ideal sexy man.
Compare, for instance, Christian Grey (female-written, sexy male ideal) with basically any male-written, sexy female ideal. There is usually few ways a woman can be sexy and evil at the same time, yet a sexy man almost HAS to be borderline-evil to give him the appropriate "manly edge."
Being pretty doesn't entitle someone to be treated better, it just happens to be what people do. Pretty girls are more likely to be let off the hook for being assholes, being dumb, being a bitch, etc.
This is why I love it when those women who are awful but pretty get older and lose their looks and start getting treated like shit. They start wondering why people are not as willing to accept their stupidity, ignorance, rudeness, or bitchiness anymore. They desperately claw at attempting a personality but end up just being pathetic and sad.
It is the flip side to your post... just because a girl is pretty shouldn't make her feel like she is entitled to be an awful, stupid, ignorant, snobby person because she thinks she's special. If you want to get through life based on looks, you deserve the future you will eventually end up with.
I knew a girl like this as well. After he left her and eventually dated someone else, she cried to my friends and I "How could he leave me and go out with HER?" as if that other girl wasn't worthy. The other girl was cute, nice, smart and funny. Not a supermodel knock out like the other, but way better in my opinion.
I will admit, I was skeptical because of the title, but the article is 100% truth.
Well done. I normally don't agree with you, but I will here.
People always treat prettier people better because they're thirsty
Well said. And when she finds a husbamd like that she will have problems as she ages and has the same attitude but hasn't come to terms with the fact that she lost her looks. Her hand selected husband who wants a pretty girl will then go looking elsewhere. Twisted irony.
That's why I avoid such girls. I never liked women with self-entitlement issues. That why I don't only go for looks alone. I go for overall personality and looks combined (She doesn't have to look like a model but she still needs to meet my own standard).
our standard homeboy, dont leave me out
There's a saying "The Beauty is in the eye of the beholder". Hence why I said only my standards. We all have different taste of women.
I agree, however you are missing one element here: YOUTH. Beautiful women only have a very limited amount of time to act like this. By the time they are 30 or so, yes 30, not so much. Men's interest will go toward the younger girls. I've saw many beautiful girls who thought they were hot stuff when they were younger end up more or less pathetic, be cause they made the wrong choices early on. They lose their power to attract men's attention and interest. Story as old as time itself.
How could this get a dislike? This is gold. Beauty fades- I really don't get why a lot of guys go for beauty because that which they value expires, whereas a heart of gold never does.
@JacquelineBuan um because a lot of girls still do it renewing the practice.
a lot of girls do give their attention to the wrong guys, so now guys do it a lot more and feel justified.
"Chivalry is dead, and women killed it." Dave Chappelle
Thing is... beauty is the gold coin of a woman's value. That's life. It's like how women are fiercely attracted to the sort of guys who have game and are the sort that might cheat on a hot girl... because it demonstrates higher value, brashness, etc.
It's life. Attractive women are more valuable in dating than non-attractive women, just as a Channing Tatum lookalike would have more value in dating than those nerdy fat guys who sit around a table at college playing weird laptop games.
Waitaminute... no... did you just say that... no way... In a slightly round about way did you say that prettier girls *really do* think they can and should get away with any sort of behavior... Or did you just say that society and individuals *tell them* that they can and should, but not necessarily that they *actually* do such a thing?