Dating is inherently cruel, can't people try to be nice? (Page 2)
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Its not just online dating where they reject you in the meanest, cruel way possible. It is real life, text, and phone as well. Its like they get some kind of sadistic joy out of making you feel like shit.
The thing with online dating is the ratio of messages guys get compared with girls. Guys get very few messages while girls get LITERALLY hundreds, so to sit there and meticulously send a response to each one is pretty tedious. Online dating can be soul crushing, but you have to remember it's not necessarily that you're ugly, it's that you're competing against hundreds of other men for one girl.
I've always been afraid of asking girls for anything because I think the girls might attack me. I can't break my glasses, man. I don't know if this fear is irrational or not. If I didn't wear glasses, I'd approach girls nonstop. Seriously. Why don't I got contacts? I got no money or job. I don't plan on getting a job anyway.
I agree that it is more hrd for guys to Date because we have approach and ask them out , so we have more chances to get rejection 😑 and as you said girls get more proposals and it is really hard for men to get a proposal. And some of my friends in my college, I mean girls make fun of guys when the reject someone like he asked me twice but I rejected then I feel really bad for our guys😞.
i disagree take owner. if i get rejected then my disappointment lies with being rejected. the manner in which i got rejected is irrelevant. getting rejected means you won't be having sex with her, period, so what does it matter whether you got turned down graciously or not?
How about not using online dating and asking a girl out in person. I guarantee you will get a response
For many of us, online dating is the best option for getting to see a wide array of women who we know are single and available. I won't date women with whom I work and I won't date women who attend my church (same reasons: too many complications if things go North.) If you go to bars to meet women, you meet the kind of women who hang out in bars (at my age, not such a good thing.)
I agree that doing things in person is much more preferable and I lament the younger generation's penchant for doing things through a text that should be done either in a phone call or in person. However, with online dating, the initial approach will never be in person.
For the record you don't always. They seem to enjoy ok here's my number, then you text her or call and she never responds. That is when she actually gives her her OWN number.
@genuinelysensitive,
"... then you text her or call and she never responds."
Well that's still a response. Better than nothing at all..
@genuinlysensitive
No response is a response like no food is a dinner.
i always try to be considerate when declining. i go out of my way to say/show that it's not rejection but just me being picky.
I dont know if it is just different today or I was lucky but I never felt dating was cruel or anything close to it.
Look, I get it, the majority of women are not going to be attracted to the average guy.
Wrong and the same can be said of men not being attracted to 5 out of 10s.
Show confidence. Girls are more interested in confidence that your face or muscle
Lesson to be learned: send really short messages to women. If they like your picture, they'll respond. If not, at least you didn't waste much time on them.
possibly hundreds of unreturned messages <-- and you never considered the possibility that it is your lack of skills in sexting that lead to women not returining the text?
It's online dating dude. Girls there get literally swamped with messages from all sorts of guys. Make a fake female profile and you'll see. It's bad.
@Remonster, yes, I did that once, that's when I understood why online dating is so hard for men.
yeah world is filled with bitches and assholes. even at my vacations i got bullied by sassy tourists.
I wish women understand this.
Those chicks are gorgeous.
They just want you to pay nyuk nyuk nyuk
They JUST... want YOU... to flip the bill... NYUK!
LOOK at their primal inSTINKS<---- A double Nyuk.
I had no idea carrots were so fascinating...
I agree with your message
develop a thicker skin.
Nice take
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