I have approached guys before and it never works out. In my experience its a REASON why they didn't approach me, they werent interested.
So I dont approach, but guys rarely approach me either. BUT I will say I have never verbally abused or made fun of a guy for approaching me, girls who do that aren't good people. At least you know that you dodged a bullet
The bitches you mention in your last paragraph are the main reason you do not get approached , saw this a lot whilst working as door staff many years back.
I think you need to stop focussing on an ultimate rsult whether it be dating, a relationship or a one nighter. THat's what causes this whole fear of rejection in the firs place. You should just approach a girl and start a conversation and have a bit of banter. See where it goes from there. At the end of the day just because some girl is great to look at doesn't mean she's right for you or even a decent person so you're literally only worrying about whatever you've built up in your head.
Totally agree. As always, US girls play games, either want you to play the traditional role, or get on their high horse about equality, whichever gives THEM the advantage!
So what if you get rejected? The world doesn't end, if she's so butthurt about you approaching her then it's her problem to deal with (unless you do it in a creepy way).
Will you forever reject good opurtunities just because you might fail? Failure is just a sign you need to better yourself.
The same way guys are afraid of being rejected is the same way we women are afraid of being rejected. Bottom line- If you are brave enough to approach, do it, irregardless of what gender you are
People should approach people they like, and for me, it's as simple as that.
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Oh, I thought women enjoyed constantly rejecting the same type of men to frustrate them into becoming rapists.
I do hear women say they approach guys. EVERY guy I've ever known in my life hasn't ever been approached by a woman in person. (Not counting online fake stuff, only in person stuff)
The writers way of speaking "YOU women!" "US men!" Is so cringey. Please don't speak about us. I don't ever want to be associated with someone like YOU.
you don't have to be so butt sore about it. I mean... Girl 101 for you... Girls at the club like to feel superior. not sure what other places you're trying but that's a 401k deal.
I've said for a long time that it makes more sense that women should approach men instead of men approaching women. Women are less likely to get turned down and women usually have higher standards than men. I never chase or approach women. Ignoring them and showing no interest seems to get their attention more.
I completely agree, those girls that don't approach... will most probably end up single with cats... look at how many women end up single cause they were waiting for their dream man that only exists in their story books. I almost never approach women and i have been approached 4 times already this year. Good mytake
Guys and women should approach someone they like. Are you trying to say unless women do the approaching there is 0% chance if knowing if a women is interested in you or not?
I know how you feel , no one has ever asked me out either I went throu high school and college without a boyfriend l get that At that same time it's not looks that bring two people it's chemistry
Much is the same with me. All through school, there was barely a guy that noticed me. Then again, I walked around like a nerd with glasses and two pigtails. :p. But I truly started blooming right after graduation and into college.
that does not work it has to be the man the one interested not the woman. Cause if a woman does it the guy will believe he is hitting on him or coming too strong and not naturally
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I have approached guys before and it never works out. In my experience its a REASON why they didn't approach me, they werent interested.
So I dont approach, but guys rarely approach me either. BUT I will say I have never verbally abused or made fun of a guy for approaching me, girls who do that aren't good people. At least you know that you dodged a bullet
The bitches you mention in your last paragraph are the main reason you do not get approached , saw this a lot whilst working as door staff many years back.
I'll approach a dude if I'm interested. I guess no one is interested in you, bro.
That's only because I don't have a farrari. Isn't a vehicle all that determines a man's success with women?
Not at all
My comment was meant for the mytake owner
I literally have never met a girl who cared what car a guy drove. Ever.
Don't make excuses bro.
I think you need to stop focussing on an ultimate rsult whether it be dating, a relationship or a one nighter. THat's what causes this whole fear of rejection in the firs place. You should just approach a girl and start a conversation and have a bit of banter. See where it goes from there. At the end of the day just because some girl is great to look at doesn't mean she's right for you or even a decent person so you're literally only worrying about whatever you've built up in your head.
Totally agree. As always, US girls play games, either want you to play the traditional role, or get on their high horse about equality, whichever gives THEM the advantage!
Get some balls, and life will bless you.
So what if you get rejected? The world doesn't end, if she's so butthurt about you approaching her then it's her problem to deal with (unless you do it in a creepy way).
Will you forever reject good opurtunities just because you might fail? Failure is just a sign you need to better yourself.
The same way guys are afraid of being rejected is the same way we women are afraid of being rejected. Bottom line- If you are brave enough to approach, do it, irregardless of what gender you are
While it's true that both genders experience this fear, for some reason guys are always expected to be the ones to overcome it!
People should approach people they like, and for me, it's as simple as that.
Oh, I thought women enjoyed constantly rejecting the same type of men to frustrate them into becoming rapists.
I do hear women say they approach guys. EVERY guy I've ever known in my life hasn't ever been approached by a woman in person. (Not counting online fake stuff, only in person stuff)
The writers way of speaking "YOU women!"
"US men!" Is so cringey. Please don't speak about us. I don't ever want to be associated with someone like YOU.
you don't have to be so butt sore about it. I mean... Girl 101 for you... Girls at the club like to feel superior. not sure what other places you're trying but that's a 401k deal.
I've said for a long time that it makes more sense that women should approach men instead of men approaching women. Women are less likely to get turned down and women usually have higher standards than men. I never chase or approach women. Ignoring them and showing no interest seems to get their attention more.
Both should approach and neither should be mean in letting the other down.
Nah I'm cool with approching women.
Besides rejection is part of life, you best get used to it and learn to move on from it, because it's everywhere in many shapes and forms.
get used to rejection? That's a joke right?
@lacorine197 Nope, it's a natural part of life now a days, what use does it hold to drag it through the mud and continuously focus on it?
to dodge it and go about life
I dont have a problem approaching a guy, Im just NERVOUS as hell he'll reject me. I've been rejected twice and I didn't like it.
Okay, but guys get nervous and hate rejection too! SO why are we always expected to go through the suffering of rejection?
@GodHelpMe mega lol! Your a fool if you believe that rejection only happens to guys.
I completely agree, those girls that don't approach... will most probably end up single with cats... look at how many women end up single cause they were waiting for their dream man that only exists in their story books. I almost never approach women and i have been approached 4 times already this year. Good mytake
Guys and women should approach someone they like. Are you trying to say unless women do the approaching there is 0% chance if knowing if a women is interested in you or not?
I know how you feel , no one has ever asked me out either I went throu high school and college without a boyfriend l get that
At that same time it's not looks that bring two people it's chemistry
no it's commitment and trust that bring two people together
Much is the same with me. All through school, there was barely a guy that noticed me. Then again, I walked around like a nerd with glasses and two pigtails. :p. But I truly started blooming right after graduation and into college.
that does not work it has to be the man the one interested not the woman. Cause if a woman does it the guy will believe he is hitting on him or coming too strong and not naturally
I don't know about other guys, but I certainly wouldn't believe that!
@JetBoy797 I know one particular guy who is like that believe it or not
Well, please don't stereotype half the population based off one person. Lol
this is false!
@lacorine197 it happemed to me
Or she's just not into him aka rejected which is how men see it...
You know, it sounds kind of creepy approaching strangers or being approached by strangers. I'd rather be introduced by someone I know.
then why are you here?
It is what it is. You can't control other people's actions. Like a girl, you went up to her and she didn't want you. It sucks I get it but oh well.