Actually what you did was quite sensible. How can you possibly choose a reliable lifetime partner if you only date a few people? By dating many men you were able to successfully weed out those not becoming to you and give yourself the opportunity to find the right guy. Unfortunately there are certain male traits all successful women learn to deal with: sports, hobbies, etc. But if you can live with that then perhaps the two of you really have a great future together. If not, keep on dating!
While most of the things you said are probably true to some extent, many of the details just seem impossible. Like your boyfriend being an apparent magician... But yeah, I guess all stories could do with some embelishment... or half-truths.
very interesting, I haven't seen or heard that before. sounds like you conditioned yourself for a certain high and it may be hard to sustain that in normal life, but as well, you weren't pleased with yourself.
Taking after corrupt males isn't really a great strategy...
lol female player? girl please any girl can do that its quite easy men will never turn a woman down you can literally date 15 guys at once, men who are players are thought of as cool cause getting one girl to like you and date you is hard enough let alone another 3 or 4 , but for girls its easy just show some skin and you're good to go.
Hahaha Damn the lives of extroverted people never cease to amaze me, the enthusiasm you possess as you greet the various situations and people you encounter is inspiring. Perhaps as I grow to maturity and begin to involve myself more prominently into the lives of others I can come to know this kind of excitation.
Its one thing if you tell them (witch you should) but going behind there backs like that isn't on especially when it sounded like the guys where the ones putting in all the effort. using one for money one to do things for you and the other you sort of liked.
You are not a player. Just a cheater trying to justify it on social media. Real classy players don't pull that shit. All they do is talk smooth state what they want and not get with people who want relationships Have to respect the game and peoples decisions in order to be a player.
Brings back memory, college was lots of fun. Except i wasn't intentionally leading them on. I was innocently being fun and flirty and went out with guys not realizing they were dates.
I think it is ok to date a lot of guys at the same time as long as you don't tell them lies like you love them, you are exclusive or you see a future together. How else would you know what you want in a guy or who to really be exclusive with
Fine. Make GOD D*** sure you are upfront about it before coaxing them in which I almost GURANTEE you have done before. Then decent men can tell you to go f*** yourself before you waste their time for your own selfish indulgement, then tell you to have a nice day.
@mostwomenshouldstfu I never had sex with anyone other than my husband. I think that is better than people who have sex with someone for 2-3 years at a time. They have had sex with more people than I ever did
Fine, again. Maybe you should clarify that it is okay to have preference in dating habits. Maybe some prefer not to being reduced to a commodity. Hence the upfront part. I apologize if my assumptions about you were incorrect though.
@mostwomenshouldstfu I never treated anyone like a commodity, more like friends. We learn about each other and we learn about ourselves while dating. We learn more about how to socialize and be comfortable with the opposite sex. I highly recommend being friends with the opposite sex. Like a respectable relationship.
This is true. I much preferred that clarification. Multiple times I see the lines of interaction crossed because it gets too personalized. But often times, it seems unavoidable. Like, is it intimate to know someone wants cheese on their burger? It's like a begetting/acclimation thing. And self control is key.
So you want to be a player ? And you're asking others how to be a player ? Well ok... Here's the dynamics of being a player... 1. Don't give a fuck about others 2. Use , lie , take , steal , an just be scandalous when ever possible. 3 . Take and never give. 4. Hoe , skank , slut , prostitusion and fuck the law... Goes on and on... Still interested. ?
"As he drove away, my "bf" jumped out of nowhere and proceeded to question me, about who that was. I was taken back and before I could say a word, he grabbed my phone and saw the text messages. I could see the pain in his eyes. He smashed my phone on the ground and drove off."
Very honest take, thanks for this! And great to hear you've grown and now have a successful long term relationship.
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LMFAO. it us funny to see desperate feminists who make up stories for abolishing the slut/stud double standard. Female players don't exist. At least women who manipulate men for getting sex from them don't exist. You don't have to play with a man's emotion for getting sex from him. Lol guys are easy unless you are ass ugly and need to play games for getting the D.
If she's ass ugly there aren't any games she can play, she isn't getting any d. That's the thing, a guy can still be attractive and a lot of women won't want to have sex with him as fast as he'd like, that's why he plays games to get her to trust him and then have sex.
GREAT Take! This is what most female players wind up feeling, I'm sure. But our media tends to glorify them as 'hip' 'smart' women who always come out on top, just as it tends to do with guy players.
"Today I am living with my current boyfriend of over 3 years. I am loyal and dedicated to him. Unfortunately, a big part of me misses the fun and games of dating so many people, but it's time to grow up. At the end of the day, I filled a void with meaningless dates and people, but at the end of the night, it is me who wasn't pleased with myself."
You could be playing us right now. I dont trust a word you say. And female players are called hoes.
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Actually what you did was quite sensible. How can you possibly choose a reliable lifetime partner if you only date a few people? By dating many men you were able to successfully weed out those not becoming to you and give yourself the opportunity to find the right guy.
Unfortunately there are certain male traits all successful women learn to deal with: sports, hobbies, etc. But if you can live with that then perhaps the two of you really have a great future together. If not, keep on dating!
While most of the things you said are probably true to some extent, many of the details just seem impossible. Like your boyfriend being an apparent magician...
But yeah, I guess all stories could do with some embelishment... or half-truths.
The moral of the story, however, was made.
very interesting, I haven't seen or heard that before. sounds like you conditioned yourself for a certain high and it may be hard to sustain that in normal life, but as well, you weren't pleased with yourself.
Taking after corrupt males isn't really a great strategy...
lol female player? girl please any girl can do that its quite easy men will never turn a woman down you can literally date 15 guys at once, men who are players are thought of as cool cause getting one girl to like you and date you is hard enough let alone another 3 or 4 , but for girls its easy just show some skin and you're good to go.
Hahaha Damn the lives of extroverted people never cease to amaze me, the enthusiasm you possess as you greet the various situations and people you encounter is inspiring. Perhaps as I grow to maturity and begin to involve myself more prominently into the lives of others I can come to know this kind of excitation.
😂 same though
Its one thing if you tell them (witch you should) but going behind there backs like that isn't on especially when it sounded like the guys where the ones putting in all the effort. using one for money one to do things for you and the other you sort of liked.
You are not a player. Just a cheater trying to justify it on social media. Real classy players don't pull that shit. All they do is talk smooth state what they want and not get with people who want relationships Have to respect the game and peoples decisions in order to be a player.
so for me being a "player" means faking feelings for a person in order to make them want sex with you.
as a girl, why would you need to do that? guys don´t need to be "played" xD most just agree to sex without any persuasion.
isn´t what you describe being a "promiscuous" woman, not a female "player" ?
Brings back memory, college was lots of fun. Except i wasn't intentionally leading them on. I was innocently being fun and flirty and went out with guys not realizing they were dates.
I think it is ok to date a lot of guys at the same time as long as you don't tell them lies like you love them, you are exclusive or you see a future together. How else would you know what you want in a guy or who to really be exclusive with
Fine. Make GOD D*** sure you are upfront about it before coaxing them in which I almost GURANTEE you have done before. Then decent men can tell you to go f*** yourself before you waste their time for your own selfish indulgement, then tell you to have a nice day.
@mostwomenshouldstfu I never had sex with anyone other than my husband. I think that is better than people who have sex with someone for 2-3 years at a time. They have had sex with more people than I ever did
@mostwomenshouldstfu plus you sound like you have an anger problem, I don't like talking with angry people
Fine, again. Maybe you should clarify that it is okay to have preference in dating habits. Maybe some prefer not to being reduced to a commodity. Hence the upfront part. I apologize if my assumptions about you were incorrect though.
@mostwomenshouldstfu I never treated anyone like a commodity, more like friends. We learn about each other and we learn about ourselves while dating. We learn more about how to socialize and be comfortable with the opposite sex. I highly recommend being friends with the opposite sex. Like a respectable relationship.
This is true. I much preferred that clarification. Multiple times I see the lines of interaction crossed because it gets too personalized. But often times, it seems unavoidable. Like, is it intimate to know someone wants cheese on their burger? It's like a begetting/acclimation thing. And self control is key.
Well what goes around comes back around.
www.girlsaskguys.com/.../q2112691-was-i-wrong-to-ask-for-the-money-back
So you want to be a player ? And you're asking others how to be a player ? Well ok... Here's the dynamics of being a player... 1. Don't give a fuck about others 2. Use , lie , take , steal , an just be scandalous when ever possible. 3 . Take and never give. 4. Hoe , skank , slut , prostitusion and fuck the law... Goes on and on... Still interested. ?
Did you even read the take?
@snowangle Yea I did , did you see my facts I wrote? Or do you just take it like an opinion on gag. ?
Oh... I almost forgot... You change your self around 180 degrees, only that would I'm press the f... Out of me !!
"As he drove away, my "bf" jumped out of nowhere and proceeded to question me, about who that was. I was taken back and before I could say a word, he grabbed my phone and saw the text messages. I could see the pain in his eyes. He smashed my phone on the ground and drove off."
Wait... what? I call bullshit.
LOL kidding this was an interesting read :D
Don't even need to click, I already know what this song is! :-D
@Prof_Don LOL this was so popular those days :D
Very honest take, thanks for this! And great to hear you've grown and now have a successful long term relationship.
LMFAO. it us funny to see desperate feminists who make up stories for abolishing the slut/stud double standard. Female players don't exist. At least women who manipulate men for getting sex from them don't exist. You don't have to play with a man's emotion for getting sex from him. Lol guys are easy unless you are ass ugly and need to play games for getting the D.
Yea I agree with this chick, she knows what she's talking about
Do you mean that it takes little to nothing to get a guy to sleep with you?
@TylerKuykendall what I meant was guys are very easy. You dont have to play love for getting sex from them.
I disagree. A guy can be emotionally attracted to her just as a girl can be every bit as shallow and horny as a guy can be.
@TylerKuykendall you mean she will make him fall in love with her in order to fuck him? Lmfao
If she's ass ugly there aren't any games she can play, she isn't getting any d. That's the thing, a guy can still be attractive and a lot of women won't want to have sex with him as fast as he'd like, that's why he plays games to get her to trust him and then have sex.
@Kkaos right. That isnwhat I meant. Girls dont have to play games for getting sex
This can be true for hookups, but asker got multiple relationships.
Oh and her boyfriend came back too lol
@SovereignessofVamps she didn't use men for getting sex from them
Wow just wow u should write a book on this man ud be best seller. I'll be first to read it too.😍😛😋
GREAT Take! This is what most female players wind up feeling, I'm sure. But our media tends to glorify them as 'hip' 'smart' women who always come out on top, just as it tends to do with guy players.
"Today I am living with my current boyfriend of over 3 years. I am loyal and dedicated to him. Unfortunately, a big part of me misses the fun and games of dating so many people, but it's time to grow up. At the end of the day, I filled a void with meaningless dates and people, but at the end of the night, it is me who wasn't pleased with myself."
You could be playing us right now. I dont trust a word you say. And female players are called hoes.
Motorhead's "the game" is going through my head now.
It's all about control
And if you can take it
It's all about your debt
And if you can pat it
Can you pay your debt now that you have control?