Geez... they've turned out a whole crop of girlie-men haven't they? [shrug]
I'm going to recommend you date up in age a bit, maybe five or ten. They're smarter, more accomplished, have more money, are better in bed, and know how to treat you. Just don't be chasing the serial pump-and-dumper. And just make sure they're not already married. :)
Agree, she's 27 so if she's dating a 32 year old the chances are likely that he will have accomplished more in his life by... dun dun dun... being older.
This is why I hate being called a nice guy bc it makes me feel inferior and has a negative connotation. My female friends always say girls want nice supportive and decsisive guys once the explain further but then refer to me as a nice guy. I don't need that negative attachment
dont worry nice guys go for the nice sweet girls anyways. and that obviously doesn't fit your description. its always going to be the player types for the girls like you.
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Which is why you wouldn't get a chance to ride in my sports car! xD
You hit the nail on the head on all five points. Women like men that can be bring fire and spice and push boundaries from time to time. Nice guys won't dare to push things to the edge because of fear and low confidence. I'm a very nice person, but I have a wild side to balance me out.
stop listening to the idle chatter and the other voices in your head and what friends think and have the idealistic of what the stereotype is. You date what you think is the right fit for you.
Why do you think a guy who is clingy, needs dictation and is emotionally too sensitive is considered Nice? I dont agree with your definition of nice guy, a guy who is successful, is good looking, knows what he wants in life and gets as well, yet never crosses his boundaries both legally or morally, wouldn't that be considered a nice guy?
Sure but there are fake 'nice guys'. The ones that use their 'niceness' are a crutch. i. e "I'm nice go out with me!" "Feel sorry for me!" "Why doesn't anyone like me? I'm so nice!" They do things for people (usually those they are romantically or sexually interested in) to get something from them. Even if the other person doesn't even WANT anything from them. Then if they don't get what they want it's the end of the world... If they had the confidence or looks to get what they wanted they wouldn't be nearly as 'nice'. I've saw this happen before with the time with a chubby 'nice guy' who lost weight and then dumped his very sweet but slightly overweight (not as big as he was) girlfriend for someone hotter. Meanwhile she had stayed with him for YEARS when he was obese.
Thank you for being honest. You have to understand that most men are not born "nice". This behavior is being taught in our entertainment industry, public education and by women lying to themselves about what they supposedly want in a man. Many of these guys were raised by domineering mothers (I was) and we are struggling to unlearn this behavior.
In the end its our own personal responsibility. But it's not like flipping a switch for us.
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Also if you want less "nice" guys than you start by standing up AGAINST feminism. THAT is number one root cause of this problem in my opinion.
This woman is being brutally honest vs. most chics who lie to guys (and themselves) about what they want in men. To that extent I appreciate it. It's the ugly truth (that most nice guys already know).
However what's salt in the wound is that women assume that nice guys deliberately "choose" to be nice. Not true, not for a fucking second. The vast majority of us are painfully aware of what a turn of it is to woman. Just screaming pushover, doormat, patsy, etc. at us isn't helping. I have rarely seen a woman give constructive advice on this. I had to research guys like Doc Love, Robert Glover and Corey Wayne to figure out the best strategy to deal with it. All three of these guys have discovered that vast majority of "nice" guys had problematic upbringings (unhealthy relationships with mothers, bullying, etc.). All three of them hate modern feminism and for good reason. Masculinity is NOT evil and this so called "patriarchal" society is bullshit in 2017.
Preach it!! You're so right on this. I'm with a guy who treats me with respect but isn't a 'nice guy' like you describe. And I'm in complete love with him!❤️
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A nice guy is someone who treats others with respect rather than just barging around trying to get his own way. A nice guy may not have any of these 5 things you said. Only the first has some correlation cause nice guys will often put others first, sometimes too often
You'd be surprised what nice guys when you get to know them where all not the damn same I don't let no woman step over me I don't get how this crap started but it sure as ain't completely true
this is completely wrong and not the definition of a nice guy haha. I almost laughed out loud. this is society's definition maybe? agreed with the doormat definition.
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Geez... they've turned out a whole crop of girlie-men haven't they? [shrug]
I'm going to recommend you date up in age a bit, maybe five or ten. They're smarter, more accomplished, have more money, are better in bed, and know how to treat you. Just don't be chasing the serial pump-and-dumper. And just make sure they're not already married. :)
Amen on the marriage thing..
Agree, she's 27 so if she's dating a 32 year old the chances are likely that he will have accomplished more in his life by... dun dun dun... being older.
okay, i think really nice guys are pretty dope tough.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=NTvstyG4usEi mean standup nice guys. forsome reason, i think of krillin, lol
This is why I hate being called a nice guy bc it makes me feel inferior and has a negative connotation. My female friends always say girls want nice supportive and decsisive guys once the explain further but then refer to me as a nice guy. I don't need that negative attachment
OMG, What fucking ever. Just do it and stop telling us about it
dont worry nice guys go for the nice sweet girls anyways. and that obviously doesn't fit your description. its always going to be the player types for the girls like you.
Which is why you wouldn't get a chance to ride in my sports car! xD
😂😂😂😂😂😂 Hillirous!!!
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@Jen_Jen I'm surprised this post was so well received! :D
I am accepting open applications ladies, but not for this girl! (take owner) :P :P lol
You hit the nail on the head on all five points. Women like men that can be bring fire and spice and push boundaries from time to time. Nice guys won't dare to push things to the edge because of fear and low confidence. I'm a very nice person, but I have a wild side to balance me out.
stop listening to the idle chatter and the other voices in your head and what friends think and have the idealistic of what the stereotype is. You date what you think is the right fit for you.
Why do you think a guy who is clingy, needs dictation and is emotionally too sensitive is considered Nice?
I dont agree with your definition of nice guy, a guy who is successful, is good looking, knows what he wants in life and gets as well, yet never crosses his boundaries both legally or morally, wouldn't that be considered a nice guy?
Sure but there are fake 'nice guys'. The ones that use their 'niceness' are a crutch. i. e "I'm nice go out with me!" "Feel sorry for me!" "Why doesn't anyone like me? I'm so nice!" They do things for people (usually those they are romantically or sexually interested in) to get something from them. Even if the other person doesn't even WANT anything from them. Then if they don't get what they want it's the end of the world... If they had the confidence or looks to get what they wanted they wouldn't be nearly as 'nice'. I've saw this happen before with the time with a chubby 'nice guy' who lost weight and then dumped his very sweet but slightly overweight (not as big as he was) girlfriend for someone hotter. Meanwhile she had stayed with him for YEARS when he was obese.
*this one time. Not with the time.. haha wtf.
Thank you for being honest. You have to understand that most men are not born "nice". This behavior is being taught in our entertainment industry, public education and by women lying to themselves about what they supposedly want in a man. Many of these guys were raised by domineering mothers (I was) and we are struggling to unlearn this behavior.
In the end its our own personal responsibility. But it's not like flipping a switch for us.
Also if you want less "nice" guys than you start by standing up AGAINST feminism. THAT is number one root cause of this problem in my opinion.
good point man. this type of behaviour isn't really natural.
women made those men. for what purpose, i do not know
This woman is being brutally honest vs. most chics who lie to guys (and themselves) about what they want in men. To that extent I appreciate it. It's the ugly truth (that most nice guys already know).
However what's salt in the wound is that women assume that nice guys deliberately "choose" to be nice. Not true, not for a fucking second. The vast majority of us are painfully aware of what a turn of it is to woman. Just screaming pushover, doormat, patsy, etc. at us isn't helping. I have rarely seen a woman give constructive advice on this. I had to research guys like Doc Love, Robert Glover and Corey Wayne to figure out the best strategy to deal with it. All three of these guys have discovered that vast majority of "nice" guys had problematic upbringings (unhealthy relationships with mothers, bullying, etc.). All three of them hate modern feminism and for good reason. Masculinity is NOT evil and this so called "patriarchal" society is bullshit in 2017.
"turn off for women"
Well, it is refreshing to see a woman say the truth clearly instead of bullshitting about "be nice to her and you'll win her heart!"
Take it with a grain of salt, since this author also wrote this take: www.girlsaskguys.com/.../a36246-what-i-learned-from-being-a-cheater
Preach it!! You're so right on this. I'm with a guy who treats me with respect but isn't a 'nice guy' like you describe. And I'm in complete love with him!❤️
A nice guy is someone who treats others with respect rather than just barging around trying to get his own way. A nice guy may not have any of these 5 things you said. Only the first has some correlation cause nice guys will often put others first, sometimes too often
You'd be surprised what nice guys when you get to know them where all not the damn same I don't let no woman step over me I don't get how this crap started but it sure as ain't completely true
''A nice guy is someone who treats others with respect rather than just barging around trying to get his own way.''
That guy you described is a push over... big difference.
That sounds more like a brain dead overclingy girl than a "nice guy".
You know there is a difference between a genuinely nice guy and a push over.
What makes women so special that she gets to cry more than him? What about you supporting him? Maybe he wants a woman that knows how to support him.
I love this! XD This is gonna attract so many bitter people! *grabs popcorn*
this is completely wrong and not the definition of a nice guy haha. I almost laughed out loud. this is society's definition maybe? agreed with the doormat definition.