I agree with what some other people are saying, don't pay so much attention to what women say. What they do is far more important.
I feel like this whole "women are as shallow as men" is such a common misconception that I'm surprised so many people still believe it. Don't get me wrong, I believed the same thing when I was like, 12, but once I started dating a few girls I grew out of that notion very quickly.
What I suggest is to get some experience in the dating game, then come back and write another take telling us all about your new findings. I'd be interested in reading about from your perspective. Now go get em!
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What you're saying almost exclusively applies to how attractiveness works for MEN, but you word your take like you're speaking for both genders. You should probably fix that, because there's not much here if anything at all about women. No, stating your theories on dating is not "brutally/blunt honest".
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So since we're talking specifically about men, the only thing I would disagree with is looks and personality mattering equally. To me, as well as other guys I've noticed, looks matter considerably more, though personality is important too.
No, dude. It's not that different for women. Women tend to word it differently so they don't sound "shallow." Looks do affect how they interpret his personality and whether or not they will be emotionally attracted to him. If looks matter more, then why do we see all these ugly and average looking guys dating girls within their own league? Why is it that ugly and average looking girls don't remain alone forever? Why do we see so many women abusers in relationships? You speak as if women don't have much of a choice when it comes to rejecting guys. And don't tell me it's based on personality only because looks affect people. You sound so detached from reality. You can't stereotype for each gender. It's brutally/blunt honest because it triggers people.
Just because women don't care as much about aesthetics, doesn't mean they don't have standards for other things. If a guy has average looks and average personality, that doesn't mean good looking women will date him just because attraction works differently for them. That said, while I do see hot girls with hot boyfriends, I see just as much couples with hot girls and average looking boyfriends, including my own dating history. I even see some hot girls with ugly guys! but I acknowledge that they are probably the exception.
I was talking about how the "honest" part of your statement was off, not the "brutally/blunt" part.
Pssst... here's the secret: The key is to pay attention to what women DO, not what they tell you ;)
Does physical attractiveness make someone more likely to cheat? Physical attractiveness has nothing to do with whether or not someone will cheat.
Research has shown that pretty people ARE more likely to cheat. The *proposed* reason is that they have much more opportunity. This is played out in celebrity marriages.
Not sure if you're that same dude that always make the "What it's like to be a 10/10 guy" and if you are, why are you always anonymous for. You seem like a narcissist to me.
"Sincerely, the brutally/blunt honest 10 out of 10 guy" was also unnecessary
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U only spoke of very attractive and extremely non attractive.. I think for people in between ( average/above average) personality does play a vital role
I agree but this 10 out of 10 guy shit is cringy as hell. Arrogance and a shitty personality will reduce someones looks though. I mean it won't make them look differently... obviously... but if a girl is arrogant and bitchy... will it make me less sexually/visually attracted to her? Yes. Your the kind of person who will read this and think I'm jealous of your 10/10 looks... really you just make me cringe and i like point it out.
Oh and i know 10 out of 10 guys will get girls approaching them. Most men don't though. So that's why guys don't get that impression. Quite often people are friends with those on their looks level... so excluding the best looking dudes group the others aren't going to experience this.
what do you mean by league like someone looks better or that the person is better in general
and I ask cause people tend to do this if the person looks good there considered better not just in looks but in everything which is usually not the case so which one
I laughed at the picture and your jealousy. Based on what I wrote, it’s what my personality looks like to you and some gaggers but too bad that’s not what I look like in real life. If it makes you feel any better then it’s what you should believe because you’re obviously triggered.
LOL what bro, I am not triggered. I really agree with your my take but you are 100% not a 10/10 guy. There is a really high chance you are just a bitter incel who has a fetish of posting as a self-proclaimed hot guy.
good mytake, but you didn't mention the fact that women are hypergamous, which means they will want to date up. In this case guys dont necessarily have to be on her level in terms of looks as long as he is above her in social status or wealth. But if he is the same as her in social status and wealth he needs to be significantly better looking than her in most cases, otherwise she will lose interest.
"Sincerely, the brutally/blunt honest 10 out of 10 guy" Lmao. 0/10 dude. Some of the things you say have some truth to them while a lot of other shit does not and is just shit.
ok so how come i have always tended to be attracted to a certain face shape and facial features that are pretty much only found on men in the orient even though i grew up in north america and have a caucasian father?
@Cosytoasty i don't care much about where a person's from but i'm extremely selective about looks. i only delve deeper after confirming physical attraction.
the only men who have caught my eye thus far were all japanese and korean. in contrast, despite liking the aesthetic of light hair and eyes the only caucasian man i've found attractive was dicaprio mainly due to face shape and features. short, compact, round/heart shape with defined jawline. i never saw a guy who looked even remotely similar to dicaprio in all the years i lived in america.
i did interact a tiny bit with a few male classmates in preschool and elementary school despite being painfully shy. i was interested in dicaprio when i was 11 (titanic) but once i hit puberty at 13 i was only interested in certain oriental males' appearances and it never changed. i refuse to live outside the orient for this reason and this reason alone.
Meh, you'd be surprised the people I've seen end up together. I've seen the most beautiful girl in my school with the most corniest looking guy and they are HAPPY!!! Human physical attraction is complicated at best.
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Physical attraction can grow with time. Personality is what I want to get to know. They can't be ugly.. but if i feel like they are a good persona and physical attraction might grow, then I'm willing to get to know them and be friends first
The reason I don't believe in leagues is the same reason I don't believe in "God" and shit like that. Lack of scientific proof. Appart from that, i liked this take.
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I agree with what some other people are saying, don't pay so much attention to what women say. What they do is far more important.
I feel like this whole "women are as shallow as men" is such a common misconception that I'm surprised so many people still believe it. Don't get me wrong, I believed the same thing when I was like, 12, but once I started dating a few girls I grew out of that notion very quickly.
What I suggest is to get some experience in the dating game, then come back and write another take telling us all about your new findings. I'd be interested in reading about from your perspective. Now go get em!
What you're saying almost exclusively applies to how attractiveness works for MEN, but you word your take like you're speaking for both genders. You should probably fix that, because there's not much here if anything at all about women. No, stating your theories on dating is not "brutally/blunt honest".
So since we're talking specifically about men, the only thing I would disagree with is looks and personality mattering equally. To me, as well as other guys I've noticed, looks matter considerably more, though personality is important too.
uhm, yeah. to some girls the car he drives and the job he has is also important :P Hypergamy, ya know ;)
@Lishka sarcasm a litlle too strong there..
No, dude. It's not that different for women. Women tend to word it differently so they don't sound "shallow." Looks do affect how they interpret his personality and whether or not they will be emotionally attracted to him. If looks matter more, then why do we see all these ugly and average looking guys dating girls within their own league? Why is it that ugly and average looking girls don't remain alone forever? Why do we see so many women abusers in relationships? You speak as if women don't have much of a choice when it comes to rejecting guys. And don't tell me it's based on personality only because looks affect people. You sound so detached from reality. You can't stereotype for each gender.
It's brutally/blunt honest because it triggers people.
Just because women don't care as much about aesthetics, doesn't mean they don't have standards for other things. If a guy has average looks and average personality, that doesn't mean good looking women will date him just because attraction works differently for them. That said, while I do see hot girls with hot boyfriends, I see just as much couples with hot girls and average looking boyfriends, including my own dating history. I even see some hot girls with ugly guys! but I acknowledge that they are probably the exception.
I was talking about how the "honest" part of your statement was off, not the "brutally/blunt" part.
Pssst... here's the secret: The key is to pay attention to what women DO, not what they tell you ;)
I agree completely, except for this statement
Does physical attractiveness make someone more likely to cheat?
Physical attractiveness has nothing to do with whether or not someone will cheat.
Research has shown that pretty people ARE more likely to cheat. The *proposed* reason is that they have much more opportunity. This is played out in celebrity marriages.
Not sure if you're that same dude that always make the "What it's like to be a 10/10 guy" and if you are, why are you always anonymous for. You seem like a narcissist to me.
"Sincerely, the brutally/blunt honest 10 out of 10 guy" was also unnecessary
U only spoke of very attractive and extremely non attractive.. I think for people in between ( average/above average) personality does play a vital role
I agree but this 10 out of 10 guy shit is cringy as hell. Arrogance and a shitty personality will reduce someones looks though. I mean it won't make them look differently... obviously... but if a girl is arrogant and bitchy... will it make me less sexually/visually attracted to her? Yes. Your the kind of person who will read this and think I'm jealous of your 10/10 looks... really you just make me cringe and i like point it out.
Oh and i know 10 out of 10 guys will get girls approaching them. Most men don't though. So that's why guys don't get that impression. Quite often people are friends with those on their looks level... so excluding the best looking dudes group the others aren't going to experience this.
what do you mean by league like someone looks better
or that the person is better in general
and I ask cause people tend to do this
if the person looks good
there considered better not just in looks but in everything
which is usually not the case
so which one
I think of leagues as physical attractiveness only, never their personality
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okay
"Sincerely, the brutally/blunt honest 10 out of 10 guy"
No, just no.
Awesome my take, though I think you look like this in real life:
https://i.imgur.com/roapdKm.jpg
Is it bad I laughed a bit too hard to this?
@MrMysteryMan 10/10, can't you see his beauty?
Oh yeah. Sure... It's in that wandering eye. Sorry, I'm an asshole sometimes.
I laughed at the picture and your jealousy. Based on what I wrote, it’s what my personality looks like to you and some gaggers but too bad that’s not what I look like in real life. If it makes you feel any better then it’s what you should believe because you’re obviously triggered.
LOL what bro, I am not triggered. I really agree with your my take but you are 100% not a 10/10 guy. There is a really high chance you are just a bitter incel who has a fetish of posting as a self-proclaimed hot guy.
good mytake, but you didn't mention the fact that women are hypergamous, which means they will want to date up. In this case guys dont necessarily have to be on her level in terms of looks as long as he is above her in social status or wealth. But if he is the same as her in social status and wealth he needs to be significantly better looking than her in most cases, otherwise she will lose interest.
"Sincerely, the brutally/blunt honest 10 out of 10 guy"
Lmao. 0/10 dude. Some of the things you say have some truth to them while a lot of other shit does not and is just shit.
I'm too sexy for my shirt:
www.macleans.ca/.../really-fat-guy-on-computer.jpg
ok so how come i have always tended to be attracted to a certain face shape and facial features that are pretty much only found on men in the orient even though i grew up in north america and have a caucasian father?
Do you like *attractive* orientals though? Or will Tsutomu from the village will do?
@Cosytoasty i don't care much about where a person's from but i'm extremely selective about looks. i only delve deeper after confirming physical attraction.
the only men who have caught my eye thus far were all japanese and korean. in contrast, despite liking the aesthetic of light hair and eyes the only caucasian man i've found attractive was dicaprio mainly due to face shape and features. short, compact, round/heart shape with defined jawline. i never saw a guy who looked even remotely similar to dicaprio in all the years i lived in america.
i did interact a tiny bit with a few male classmates in preschool and elementary school despite being painfully shy. i was interested in dicaprio when i was 11 (titanic) but once i hit puberty at 13 i was only interested in certain oriental males' appearances and it never changed. i refuse to live outside the orient for this reason and this reason alone.
Only thing that matters.
Looks, MONEY, SOCIAL STATUS.
Love isn't real. Time to grow up.
Goodtake. I can't imagine being with someone I wasn't sexually attracted too.
That chick is beautiful.
@Hispanic-Cool-Guy I've had a thing for her since that 70's show
Physical attractiveness can also advance one's career
Look what most females look at. Then it his money in how she can benefit herself in a good time.
Meh, you'd be surprised the people I've seen end up together.
I've seen the most beautiful girl in my school with the most corniest looking guy and they are HAPPY!!!
Human physical attraction is complicated at best.
Physical attraction can grow with time. Personality is what I want to get to know. They can't be ugly.. but if i feel like they are a good persona and physical attraction might grow, then I'm willing to get to know them and be friends first
The reason I don't believe in leagues is the same reason I don't believe in "God" and shit like that. Lack of scientific proof. Appart from that, i liked this take.