Why Men Don't Approach "Intimidating" Women

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Why Men Don't Approach

Most women who claim they're too "intimidating" for men to approach them are full of BS and don't want to accept they're just not attractive to men. Yes some men find women too beautiful to approach, but most of those guys find average women too intimidating to approach as well. The truth is that no woman is too beautiful to get approached because there's always someone ballsy, drunk, or risky enough to ask for her number, grab her ass, or honk at her as she's walking down the sidewalk. So let's differentiate between what intimidating really looks like and why some conventionally attractive women experience issues attracting men

Intimidating:

in·tim·i·date
inˈtiməˌdāt
Verb
Gerund or present participle: intimidating
Frighten or overawe (someone), especially in order to make them do what one wants
"He tries to intimidate his rivals"
Synonyms:
Frighten, menace, terrify, scare, terrorize, cow, dragoon, subdue

Why Men Don't Approach "Intimidating" Women

What Makes A Woman Intimidating

When a woman intimidates a man, activating the core of his fear, sexual attraction is the last thing running through his mind. The same things that creates an intimidating woman creates an intimidating man. An intimidating woman is someone who makes you scared, at risk of physical danger, and uneasy with close proximity. Imagine someone large, powerful, aggressive, possibly mentally unstable, or even holding a weapon when you think of the word "intimidating" and equate it similarly with feminine and masculine applications. An intimidating woman intimidates all people, men and women, not just the few men who are too scared to ask out beautiful women

Why Men Don't Approach "Intimidating" Women

Images of intimidating people include prisoners, militia or police officers, boxers or MMA fighters, someone pointing a gun at your face, or that creepy guy whom everyone thinks will blow up the school. Intimidating behavior includes erratic, unstable, unpredictable, aggressive, deadly, and unremorseful actions, thoughts, opinions, and ideologies. So a woman who can bench press 300 lbs could accurately be considered intimidating because she physically could inflict a large amount of bodily harm to a man; a woman who killed her ex for buying the wrong color car could accurately be considered intimidating because her mentality is unstable in a way that may cause a man harm. These kinds of women are also intimidating to other women, not just men. Furthermore, female body builders often reduce their sexual appeal to the majority of men as they increase muscle mass

Why Men Don't Approach "Intimidating" Women

Women who claim they're intimidating because they're cutthroat CEOs are intimidating to men for being cutthroat and aggressive, not for being successful. Studies have shown men find women intimidating when they know for a fact that she has a higher IQ than him and that relationships last longer when the man is smarter than the woman. Most men claim to like successful women and intelligent women on paper, but then backtrack a bit once he knows she's more successful or intelligent than him. Intelligent women and unintelligent men are more likely to be single due to issues with incompatibility. But again, since a stranger has no way of knowing your IQ or intelligence before getting to know you, it's not your intelligence that is keeping men from hitting on you, only keeping you from a relationship

Why Men Don't Approach "Intimidating" Women

Why Men Don't Approach Attractive Women

Most attractive women receive constant unwanted attention from strangers, especially men. Men are 10X more likely to comment on female rather than male profiles on image-based platforms such a Instagram and women receive 5X more likes than men. Men are visual creatures and make their feelings known when women excite them. So women who are conventionally attractive and do not receive the expected male attention are doing something to prevent this attention because they're doing something to prevent men from finding them sexually attractive

For the purposes of this MyTake, I'm gearing this towards attractive women because that is the most common demographic to be approached by men. Average and unattractive women may benefit from this advice in conjunction with another MyTake I wrote that includes a more in-depth analysis on Improving Attractiveness To The Opposite Sex

Why Men Don't Approach "Intimidating" Women

Presentation

Some conventionally attractive women present themselves poorly or in another way that prevents men from finding them sexually attractive. Examples of this include poor hygiene and sloppy clothing or too severe, matronly, or masculine clothing. Men like beautiful women who wear feminine clothing, embrace their femininity, and act like women, so women who deviate from the ideal of what men want in a woman will find that men often ignore them. Women who wear tight buns give off the image of being severe and uptight while women who shave part of their heads and die the rest purple may often be seen as lesbians or mentally unstable. Presentation plays a huge role in attraction and you only have 7 seconds to make a first impression, so bringing your best presentation with you everywhere you go is imperative if you want to be successful in life, business, and love

Why Men Don't Approach "Intimidating" Women

Successful Women Are Masculine

Heterosexual men find women with feminine qualities attractive while the vast majority of successful women exhibit many masculine traits, reducing their sex appeal. Women become successful in corporations the same way men become successful: through aggressive, goal-oriented, sacrificial, risky, emotionless advances and promotions. While adapting masculine traits helps women to move forward in large companies and build their own businesses, these same traits prevent men from viewing them as sexually attractive, the main problem with initiating and maintaining romantic interest for these women. Corporate women also cater their physical appearances to improve their financial success with severe hairstyles, nude and subdued makeup palettes, professional suits (especially masculine pantsuits), and flats or practical kitten heels--not the ideal way to attract a man's attention

Why Men Don't Approach "Intimidating" Women

(For those of you who don't know, this is a picture of Hillary Clinton, a successful politician, and her husband, former President Bill Clinton, who famously cheated on her. Hillary likes to wear pantsuits and has been proven to scientifically have an unnatural or forced smile while giving speeches)

Successful women who want to appear less "intimidating" to men need to leave their masculine qualities at work, relax more during social settings, and overall cater their appearances to look less severe and more feminine

They're Too Independent

Men like independent women who work full-time, financially support themselves, and express enough self-esteem in not depending upon exterior sources for constant praise and affection. These positive personality traits show a man you put effort into your daily life, find solutions to everyday problems, and won't malfunction left to your own devices, ultimately determining an ability to raise a future family and put effort into romantic relationships. But men take pride in being able to provide for, support, protect, and make women happy, so an independent woman who doesn't allow herself to depend on a man who cares about her may find herself single more often than not. Relationships are a two-way street, so women who come off as too independent, not wanting men, or not being interested in men enough for a relationship will find themselves not being approached as much as other women

Why Men Don't Approach "Intimidating" Women

Independent women often come of as not having enough time for men, so it's important for independent women to devote time to, express interest in, and offer up space and situations to be dependent on men they desire relationships with. This change in attitude will spread through all facets of life, including improving chances of men initiating interest in the first place

Unavailability And Other Body Language

Attributing luck to occupying the right space at the right time helps people satisfy their lonesome miseries, but fails to help them improve their situation. People who try new things, meet new people, and create more platonic relationships increase their chances of running into that random special someone while other people actively engage in activities and behaviors to prevent good luck and attention. People who desire relationships need to put themselves out there, especially women who experience issues with men not approaching them. Many attractive women repel men by appearing unavailable with time, emotion, occupation, and careers

Why Men Don't Approach "Intimidating" Women

Girls tell me all the time that nobody approaches them in public, but hundreds of guys drool all over them on Facebook, Instagram, and Snapchat. These girls (mostly under 30) unknowingly reduce their chances of someone hitting on them by exhibiting poor and unavailable body language, mainly by focusing exclusively on their cellphones rather than company, meeting new people, or engaging in life and new experiences. I corrected one of my friends' body language one night and a guy she'd been crushing on for two years came up to her and danced with her all night long. Sitting on your cellphone while at a club, bar, or other social gathering is the single worst thing a woman can do to prevent herself from being approached because it signals that you're interested in something else, may be waiting for someone such as a boyfriend, and shows your lack of engagement in fun activities and the people around you. Furthermore, these girls often look unhappy or bored, not attractive qualities for relationships or raising children. You're much more likely to get approached while reading a book than your phone because reading is a hobby, signals intelligence, and "What are you reading?" is an easy conversation starter with an easy conversation in the plot, premise, and characters in the book

Why Men Don't Approach "Intimidating" Women

Thousands of hours of research and and dollars have been spent on studying body language and implementing body language to convey intention and emotion, persuade, and hide lies because body language immensely impacts the way people view us, interact with us, and especially approach us. Exhibiting "open" as opposed to "closed" body language greatly increases your chances of strangers approaching you for conversation or romantic interest. To exhibit "open" body language, stand and sit with uncrossed legs and arms, angle your body towards the center of the room rather than your back, angle your palms forward and up without clenched fists, and actively engage with people, conversations, and events. Flirt with people who express interest in you and that you find yourself interested in. When in establishments that serve alcohol, drink enough to feel loose and not like a prude, but not so much that people view you as sloppy, unstable, addicted, dumb, hostile, and/or easy

Why Men Don't Approach "Intimidating" Women

Close Friends

For some women who are attractive, have fantastic personalities, and engage in social activities, their close friends and friend groups prevent men from approaching them. Women who visit clubs and bars in a group of 3 are most likely to be approached with 2 and 4 very approachable as well; anything more than 4 is difficult for a stranger to intrude upon while going out alone can be dangerous and mainly illicit purely sexual attention from men interested in hookups. Women who spend time in public with a male friend may unintentionally send the message of being taken or lead a man to question her fidelity. Strangers' first impression of you coincides with their first impression of your friends as well, so hanging out with people who express themselves distastefully or contradictory to your beliefs and personality may also prevent you from attracting compatible personalities. Also women who spend all of their attention on their friend group without allotting room for new people to enter reduce options for men to approach them

Why Men Don't Approach "Intimidating" Women

Resting Bitch Face

Everyone knows someone with a severe case of RBF who oftens looks angry, sad, upset, or like they're smelling something foul and 90% of the time you avoid asking them what happened because you're of the potential responses. On a serious note, I actually know a lady with some serious RBF and she is happily married with a son. Looking like a serial killer, bitch, or unhappy person may prevent someone from approaching you though, so I greatly encourage women with RBF to utilize open body language and smile more when trying to attract new romantic partners

Why Men Don't Approach "Intimidating" Women

This segment remains incomplete without mentioning women who actually look like bitches because that's unattractive behavior that prevents men from approaching women in the same way that men acting like douches prevents women from shelling out their phone numbers. Attractive women who exhibit nasty behavior or look too high-maintenance reduce their chances of average men approaching them

Insecurity In Men

Despite your stunning looks, fantastic personality, and efforts to improve your approachability, some men are too intimidated to approach women of any type. This is not your flaw but rather his insecurity and fear of rejection. A real man will make his intentions known if he truly cares about you or wants to be a part of your life. So if there's a guy your eye draws itself to yet he seemingly ignores you, then quit wasting your time trying to grab his attention and focus on somebody else

Why Men Don't Approach "Intimidating" Women

Why Men Don't Approach "Intimidating" Women
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