Disclaimer: I am in no way saying that all men are like this or that some women don't act the same way, I am just sharing my personal experiences.
I have been single for three years now, I have dated a bit in that time but nothing serious. I had a break from men for the last year so last week I decided to join a dating site, my site of choice was oasis.com. In my profile I stated clearly that I am not after fun or anything causal, I want to date and get to know someone blah blah blah...
I have three experiences that stood out from the many..
The Bitch Move
I accepted the request of a guy who's profile was similar to mine, he said he wants to get to know someone, he is looking for a serious relationship, etc. sends me a message "come over to my place we can have a few drinks and some fun together (ended with his phone number)"
I was quite annoyed because my profile states I am not looking for casual fun, I didn't respond to him but I took his phone number and posted a personals ad on Craigslist with a body pic of myself and his number. His phone would have blown up with messages/calls 😂
Stage 5 clinger
This one makes me a little sad because he seemed awesome.... at first.
I have always been reluctant to date men with kids but I didn't realise he had kids till after I got to know him a bit and he seemed really awesome so I thought I'd give it a go.
Our conversarion quickly moved from Oasis to Kik. We spoke all day for two days, we had so much in common it was great! We planned to meet on Saturday night, everything was going great until he told me he was falling in love with me, he told me that we're meant to be together, God brought us together for a reason and all these other crazy things and we hadn't even met yet!
I quickly had to end it there because it was a bit intense, I told him honestly why I didn't want to meet him and then blocked him so he proceeded to make a fake Oasis profile, add me then confess who he is and continue to profess his love for me and why I can't leave him.
I shortly after deleted my Oasis profile.
The Devil in Disguise
I am a Christian so it's important to me to be with
a Christian man, which was also clearly stated on my profile, so I met who I thought was a lovely Christian man. He said all the right things, really drew me in. I remember telling him a few minutes into our first phone conversations that he is a sweet talker, I wish I had listened to myself and gotten out at the start.
This is the guy I spoke to for the longest time, I continued to speak to him after I had deleted Oasis and on Friday night we decided to meet. He told me he wanted to date and get to know me, he said he was going to work hard to win me over and he would do that by taking me out for dinner so here I am ready for a great dinner date but he goes and gets us fast food to eat in his car after he fingered me then wouldn't stop begging me to suck his cock.
I know I shouldn't have let it get that far but I got caught up in the moment and buckled, it's always been difficult for me to have self control in these situations but I'm trying to get better at it.
Anyway afterwards I told him it was a mistake and I'd like to never see him again because that's not the kind of relationship I want. I want a man who thinks I'm worth actually dating not eating fast food in your car. I told him the truth and he lost it at me, saying I'm making up excuses because that excuse isn't good enough, he couldn't understand where I was coming from because he saw nothing wrong with what happened.
Those are the three experiences that stood out the most to me, I don't understand why online dating is like this. Just be clear about what your intentions are, it's not that difficult to be honest and if someone isn't after the same thing then just leave them alone!! If someone wants causal don't try to make it serious or if someone wants serious don't try to make it casual.