My Recent Experience With Online Dating. (Page 2)
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How is it his fault? How did it ever lead to that point where your bottoms were off especially in small spaces aka the car? You could have said something beforehand about everything.. just wondering...
Like I said in the post I buckled, I have an issue with self control when it comes to sex and I was weak. So afterwords when removed from the heat of the moment I realised this isn't what I wanted and I ended it.
Everyone makes mistakes, part of growth in mindset. Next time, someone interesting enough for you to get to know comes along.. Make the date and plan it so that way you really can get to know him more in a neutral setting and if he tries to overstep your line, you can simply tell him that kind of behavior is unacceptable. I hope this helps.
That's the thing, we did have a plan. He lives about an hour away from me so when he said he was picking me up to take me out to dinner I am the one who got to choose where. I chose a really chilled out charcoal chicken shop but when we were there he decided to order it to go and said we would go somewhere else. I didn't realise that his intentions was to sit in his car and eat then try to make me suck him off.
I have learnt from this though, I have learnt to stand my ground so this will not happen to me again.
I've been on Plenty-of-fish. com, some other websites the experiences with them were mediocre, but with hi-we is good, some time ago, I actually text back and forth with female daters on my phone, don't even get me started with tinder, they don't respond like they should. They are huge douches.
The fact that you took his number and posted it on craigslist makes you look like an idiot. You should have just ignored his message.
I don't really care what it makes me look like lol sexual harassment is not ok, he has learnt that the hard way.
That's not sexual harassment you fool. He didn't make any inappropriate comments and you're on a dating site. That's an invitation, not harassment. It's because of idiots like you that real sexual harassment isn't taken seriously. And you should care how it makes you look because honestly you sound pathetic.
It most certainly is sexual harassment, he made unwanted sexual advances.. if he had done that to a co-worker that would be classified as sexual harassment in the work place so why should online be any different? It was clear I didn't want that, he even lied about what he wanted or else he wouldn't even have been able to message me as I wouldn't have added him.
Don't make light of smaller forms of sexual harassment just because there is worse out there, none of it is ok. You can't treat people that way.
You can think I look pathetic but I really don't care because I'm cool with what I did, I know it was childish but I'm happy that I did it.
Sexual harassment is considered serious in a workplace because you have the right to earn a living without being bothered by someone trying to get in your pants. You were on a dating site, which implies you were looking for someone to (eventually) get in your pants. All you had to do was block him on the site and ignore him completely. Your response was way out of proportion to his (perceived) rudeness.
@zagor It doesn't matter where it takes place, he sexually propositioned me when he knew I didn't want that because I said I didn't want it. If I had on my profile that I wanted fun then that message would be warranted but I didn't, I said the opposite and specifically stated I am not there for casual fun. I used the work place as an example but no matter where it happen if someone propositions you, especially when they know it's not wanted, that is not ok!!!
I see, so if you're dancing at a night club and some guy comes up and asks you to come back to his place for some fun, you should blast him with the pepper spray...
@zagor If he came up to me and asked me that out of nowhere, no prior contact then I would tell him to go fuck himself because it is not ok to treat people like that!!
Couldn't agree more.
online dating is tough! you never know what your gonna get, if they will be the same in person as they are online! BUT there are a couple good guys out there, i met my current boyfriend of 5 years online! good luck in the future!
You shouldn't have done that to the guy who asked you over for drinks. And going off at a guy after you let him finger you anyway. Getting mad at him because he got fast food, how about next time you take the guy out and pay for the meal.
He asked me out so he should take me out, he said he was coming to pick me up to take me out when he obviously didn't plan to do that at all.
Oh and I didn't go off at him, I simply told him this wasn't what I wanted and tried to end it there then he went off at me! Learn to read 🙄
Men almost always are the ones that ask the girl out so... must we always take you out and pay for it.
If you say to me I'm going to come and pick you up and take you out for dinner then of course I'm expecting him to me, he literally said he was taking me on a date.
So yes, if you ask someone on a date then you should pay. I would pay if I initiated the date.
But as I said, men initiate it 90% of the time, so having to pay if you initiate it is not fair. It should be split 50/50. If I invite my friends out to drink at a bar in don't pay for all their drinks and potential food, and they don't expect me to.
I'm talking about first dates here, you can have your opinion and I can have mine. Mine will not change, in my opinion the person who initiates it should pay ESPECIALLY if that person has stated "I'm going to take you out for dinner"
I frequently see a guy and a girl at subway when I go, makes me wonder if my dates are too extravagant. lol
Well that was interesting but I could see already the mistakes the guys made that I have never done or be that stupid to do, you really shouldn't give up though, there must be guys like me out there that know better and how to act. At least you met some, I don't even get that far and single a year and a half now. I've never done any of those things those guys did but still nothing
I honestly find it so weird that people say things like "at least you met some"... seriously? The guy was begging me to suck his cock and got angry st me because I didn't want to. Do you really think that's better than being single and not meeting anyone?
Well you're meeting a lot of the wrong ones for some reason, it is surprising to me the things these guys are doing and saying, I just meant you have at least met them which is further than I have gotten, women aren't even giving me the chance to even meet them to show them I'm not even like these guys, maybe I'm just not a smooth talker, I'm always honest and direct, I guess I need to know what they did to even get you to meet them is what I was trying to say
You don't get what I'm saying, you say well at least you meet someone as if it was a good experience. I would much rather be in your shoes rather than be sexually harassed by a man who lied to me about who he is so he could meet me.
The only thing that I agree with is that the bitch move was a bitch move on your part.
It wasn't really here for you to agree or disagree with, I'm I simply sharing my experiences.
And I'm sharing my experience of reading it.
Not really, you shared your opinion lol
"so here I am ready for a great dinner date but he goes and gets us fast food to eat in his car after he fingered me" are you just mad that he didn't buy you steak?
Not mad at all, he just isn't right for me.
I don't know why you were complaining about getting fast food then, I always like free food.
Because he promised to take me out for dinner, he said he was interested in getting to know me, he said he was going to work for it and win me over. Then when he showed up to take me out to dinner all he wanted to do was come to my place and get me to make him dinner. When I said no, I want to go out to dinner like he said we would we then went to the restaurant, he ordered it take away... I was thinking he wanted to go by the river and eat there but no... he has other intentions.
Yes I gave in to temptation BUT looking back his intentions were clear from the start when he kept asking to come to my place instead of going out. He lied to me, he never had any intention of getting to know me.
Well guys know what girls want to hear. Of course they would put on their profile that they are into serious relationship and even use God's name to attract girls when in fact they are legit fuckboys.
What I've learned from being on a dating site is to never invest physically, emotionally or even financially haha. Don't trust men right away. Let them prove they are worth your trust. Be careful. A lot of garbage spreads on dating sites.
I hate how you have to put a disclaimer when its common sense not everyone acts like the person/people in your mytake.
"not all men are like that"
"women are bad too"
I put the disclaimer to stop those comments because they annoy me, like you said.. it's common sense right? Not to everybody apparently because even the disclaimer didn't stop people from responding like that.
This happen to me I was apparently sexist for using examples from my dating life ! even thou I only ever dated men lol honestly just ignore them on here there a shit ton of trolls that want to get under people skin.
So then why say you hate how I've put a disclaimer?
Isn't it obvious? if trolls are going to troll about it then it doesn't matter you have to put a disclaimer or not or its real people getting piss for no reason.
So if people try to come at me with "not all men" blah blah blah I can refer them to the disclaimer..
What's your problem?
What's your problem lol your the one who kept this conversation going.
Yeah it's a conversation sweetheart, you're part of it too. I didn't keep a conversation going with myself.
Ok so? why you being such an ass? I don't know why you sound or acting like you have a chip on your shoulder if you don't then I don't know why you making yourself look like it.
You kinda were an arsehole first, I just followed along.
Excuse me? coming from the person who start the conversation and you calling me an asshole where in my comments do I sound like one?
The way you started this conversation, your comment was irrelevant.
It relates to the mytake so no I don't think so and it pretty clear your the only one being an asscake here since I wasn't saying anything that justifies your behavior. If you can't handle people comments on here then don't write period since clearly an opinion that not insulting in anyway apparently makes you emotional.
Why are you getting so agitated? You're the one who called me an arse first lol
I think your comment was irrelevant, especially when people are always whinging "not all men" "women do the same thing" and you even agreed with me on that so of course the disclaimer was necessary.. your comment was not lol
This is how I talk, you don't like it then don't talk to me.. simple.
1. you being rude first and I ask why then you have the nerve to say I was being an asshole when none of my comments justifies your attitude or behaviour
2. the fact that a comment like mine bother you so much and get you to be a jerk is hilarious
3. the fact you can't see you being rude for no reason and still don't see it sorry but you have no business being on a site that talks to people if comments that are non rude get to you.
and this is how I talk ok so you get emotional for no reason and act like a bitch because you feel like it. I don't know how any one wants to talk to you in real life if you getting mad for no reason and being a jerk.
Your comment didn't bother me, I just think it was irrelevant lol the only one getting emotional here is you 😂
Nah you just a rude person who likes to being rude for stupid shit. I'm glad I don't know you in real life or I make sure to avoid you at all costs because clearly you get upset over dumb shit.
I'm not the one carrying on lol I told you I simply just thought your comment was irrelevant, if you think that makes me upset then so be it lol
I also think you are a very rude person who has no business talking to people if she can't handle it :).
Rightio 😂
Shit, looking back at this convo you got all shitty because I said "what's your problem?" That apparently makes me an arse 😂 but apparently I'm the one who is getting emotional. Literally the worst thing I said is what's your problem 😂😂
Oh and I called you an arse after you called me one but seriously? Those three little words set you off so much? Fuuuuck 😂😂😂😂
Actually because you were being rude and you think no one will call you out on it if they feeling you are being rude to them? Like are you for real lol so you think you can rude to anyone and people should shouldn't call your ass when your acting out? Ok then keep living in your delusional world just know not everyone going to put up with your rude ass. And you still an ass since you still trying to justify shitty behaviour.
You can call me what ever you like sweetheart, I actually don't care 😂 I find this funny because you think I'm getting all emotional when I'm sitting here laughing at how much you have over reacted to this conversation.
I said "what's you're problem" and that set you right off 😂😂
At least you didn't end up buried in the desert like many girls do. Or chained up in some guy's basement.
I stopped trying to do online dating because I never met anyone whom I actually wanted to date. My last two boyfriends I met in person. I like it better that way
Man, it appears that people can't just be straightforward when it comes to online interactions.
I think if you put that you're looking for sex, the mods will just delete your profile, or you will get reported by all the girls not looking for it and you'll get deleted.
@red324 That's not true, plenty of people had on their profiles that were looking for fun.
It's not online dating that's bad, it could be any form of dating. It depends on the person. If anything, I'd say online is better since you actually know much about the match.
Did I say online dating is bad or was I just sharing my experience with online dating?
No I didn't say you did. I was just sending a message to the negative view many may have regarding online dating.
Yea I should've mentioned
Did the fast food guy still have the burger grease on his fingers when he fingered u?
Wait nvm I misread he got fast food after. Well now I know that to finger someone all I need to do is tell her I'm a Christian man.
If you were paying attention to what you read you would know that we ate after he fingered me and even if we didn't as if he wouldn't clean his hands first, maybe you're a grub but most people clean themselves up after eating.
I doubt that would work for you.
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You didn't do a very good job at trolling when you can't even read properly, better luck next time sweetheart.
Lol it sounds like it worked
I'm sure you always feel that way but I just think you're stupid and dirty lol so if that's what you were going for then it sure did work.
I couldn't read the rest of the take after you said you posted the guy's number on Craigslist. Like are you 12? That was so childish.
I know it was childish but I don't take lightly to sexual harassment, whether it's in person or online. If you're going to send me vulgar messages and not even bother to say hello to me or ask how I'm doing beforehand then I'm gonna be a bitch, I have no regrets.
So what about guys who like to send you a dic pic saying to suck it? Is that not childish and pervy?
@BrittBratt2416 of course it is, what's your point?
Good to know, my point is cause I see a whole bunch of dudes on here that try to make it seem like its not that big of deal.
@BrittBratt2416 Most likely the type of guys who would do such a thing in the first place, these men should know that it's not ok to treat women this way so when they do, I teach them a lesson.
Sexual harassment? Are you fucking serious? You're on a dating site and a guy ask you over for drinks. How is that sexual harassment? If you didn't want to go over to his place, just say no and move on. You're acting like a little kid no wonder you have issues with men. Grow up buttercup.
He made unwanted sexual advances, we all know what he meant by "have some fun together"... if someone did that to a co-worker it would be sexual harassment in the work place. So why is it any different online? It was late and he wanted me to go over for drinks and "fun" when my profile clearly stated I am not looking for for "fun" so he would have known it's not what I wanted but he did it anyway.. that is the very definition of seuxal harassment.
Hahaha well if that is sexual harassment, I'm filing two reports tomorrow against female coworkers who had invited me to thier place...
You have to be trolling right? What if 'fun' meant just hanging out and play video games or something? Your brain jumped to sex so you automatically thought it was sexual harassment? 😂😂😂😂😂 You're not mature enough for a relationship @asker. You have a lot of growing up to do. I hope you are aware that what you did is illegal in some places and the guy can even sue you.
He could try but he has no idea who I am and police won't bother to track IP address for something so minor. You can think what you like but it's obvious what he meant by that comment, if your co-worker asks you to come over for sex then you could definitely file a complaint because that's not how you treat people., that's not ok!!
I don't really care if you think I'm immature and not ready for a relationship.. that's not really up to you to decide that especially when you're making that assumption based on my retaliation to being propositioned when it was clear I didn't want that.
"It's not that difficult to be honest and if someone isn't after the same thing then just leave them alone." Hmmm maybe you should take your own advice dear. 😂😂
I was honest, I stated everything I wanted on my profile so when he added me I looked over his profile which was very similar to mine so I accepted his request and then he proceeded to proposition me when he knew that is not what I wanted. It's funny how you see what I did and think I'm such a horrible person yet you defend his actions, it's really sad to see that people think sexual harassment is ok. At least I know what I did was worn again and childish, I just don't care but you defending someone like that is pretty disgusting.
No, she is most certainly right on his intentions. And it is at least disrespectful, if she states it in her profile, that she only wants something serious, and he asks for lofty sex anyway, no matter how much he says it through the flower. I think too, that the way she reacted is immature and he won't learn much from it that way, but I can't say he didn't deserve it.
Come on dude don't play stupid, you know he's was talking about sex or hoping for sex to happen yet you're saying her mind jumped to sex?
it's pretty obvious to anyone who reads it but for the sake of his argument he will play dumb.
@Swiss_Tengu She could have just ignored it and move on. This is some serious overreacting.
@Ceins I could have and that could have treated me respect but hey, we don't all do the right thing all the time.
Lol this made my day
You're braver than I am, I would never date online
Online dating never worked for me so i dont bother
Yes online dating isn't always worth it