Nice take! Definitely good tips for people serious about relationships through online dating. Unfortunately, lots of online dating has become an easy way from people to hook up. (Probably why guys use those photos, but I don't know.)
lol you're stupid like woman decide if they want to have kids, i know plenty of handsome man in their 40s that dont want any kids and have hot gfs. Stopped reading after that
Who wants to be stuck with, put up with or care for any looser at any age. Grow up and develop a mature not old attitude. Women now inherit, work and invest.
I think most men make the mistake of cheating on their online partner, by looking at porn and nudes of other women and flirting with more than one woman. It is sick what guys and girls can do online. I prefer dating someone who I can see and trust.
Thinking they can fake being young when they are sick and old and pretending to be a stud and live vicariously through bs on these sites. I know someone who does this and lies.
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I think this is an interesting article because it isn't written from a good perspective. This is written by a woman who may be in a long-term relationship for men who want long-term relationships out of women for the most part but for instance showing off your muscles is known to be attractive and draw attention but not from (as you put it) the soccer mom.
The target audience for that behavior is not who this article represents.
The online mistakes are not guys being who they are online , its you not accepting guys online who are being themselfs. Why have you been online so long?
I upvoted only because of your use of "coquettishly." Well done.
There are some decent points in your take, especially about gun pics. The one about "never married no kids" is kind of harsh, and it's a shame that you feel that way.
I see the point about never married/no kids, and I'm one of those men unfortunately. When I see a woman on a site that is almost 40, never married and no kids, I start to wonder why. I wonder if she has big issues, spends all of her time working, or has never been serious about a relationship. Of course, on the other hand, when they are divorced, their ex may cause issues, or they may even be rebounding from the divorce. It's an age that it's really a lot harder to meet someone without a lot of potential for problems. The women I've met at this age never married have had psych problems except for one that was single because they spent time taking care of a dying family member
Just because you're talking to a bunch of people doesn't mean you running that success how many people here actually hook up on this site real real world
Wrong! Lots of dating is for hook ups or notching your belt. Personally I would be cautious of all potential liars anywhere. My friends son met his perfect match on line. Married.
They're not a waste of time and money, they are what they are. It might be harder to have success if you can't present yourself as an attractive person on them, but that's life.
A close friends son met his perfect match on line. It can happen. But personally I think most tell a lot of lies. Be careful what you reveal. In person dates may just want to notch their belts too. Its not easy today to avid all pitfalls.
I always find the "pictures with friends" an annoying thing to overcome. I have friends, but when we do shit we don't take pictures of ourselves ever like girls love to do. Rarely do I end up in pictures together with friends.
Also, photos with friends are an absolutely terrible idea, really. I just feel like you did a "things guys on dating sites do that I IN PARTICULAR don't like" without much of a thought about whether your feelings actually translate to the rest of the populace.
I think it might have to do with you being near 40 and thus being unrepresentative of the average dating app user.
I disagree. People generally like people that have friends. I don't think they should make up the bulk of photos, but one saying "hey! Im not a social leper!" Is nice.
And no healthy female wants to date a narcissist. So yeah, if you want meaningless attention, go with repose. But maybe weeding out the women who are drama and crazy (who like narcissists) is a good thing. Just saying
Agreed. I think the biggest mistake guys make is trying to appeal to other guys. I'd be very disturbed if I was a woman who saw a guy posting his hunting photos.
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I'll get advice from a guy on internet dating and a guy who knows how to get women.
@Apope16 i just responded to a person above and cited the law of 100. My take is not about finding someone for sex. It's about finding connection. I think many poster's have not understood that. SMH
Sex is connection. YOu cannot have romantic connection without intense sexual attraction. If you find a person who is average in sexual attractiveness, its okay to talk to them. I'd say go on a date with them and see how it goes. But if you meet a person and after the date you would not be willing to fuck their brains out... simply swipe on left.
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Nice take! Definitely good tips for people serious about relationships through online dating. Unfortunately, lots of online dating has become an easy way from people to hook up. (Probably why guys use those photos, but I don't know.)
lol you're stupid like woman decide if they want to have kids, i know plenty of handsome man in their 40s that dont want any kids and have hot gfs. Stopped reading after that
I know plenty of loser guys who are desperate fpr companionship in their 50s and 60s because they passed up commitment in their 30s and 40s. Hmmm
Who wants to be stuck with, put up with or care for any looser at any age. Grow up and develop a mature not old attitude. Women now inherit, work and invest.
I think most men make the mistake of cheating on their online partner, by looking at porn and nudes of other women and flirting with more than one woman. It is sick what guys and girls can do online. I prefer dating someone who I can see and trust.
Unless he or she is a moral person they can't be trusted period, regardless of technology used or not.
Trut is about morals not technology.
No such thing as an online partner. If there's no physical and sexual energy there, you can't expect him to be loyal in your 'online relationship'.
Thinking they can fake being young when they are sick and old and pretending to be a stud and live vicariously through bs on these sites. I know someone who does this and lies.
I think this is an interesting article because it isn't written from a good perspective. This is written by a woman who may be in a long-term relationship for men who want long-term relationships out of women for the most part but for instance showing off your muscles is known to be attractive and draw attention but not from (as you put it) the soccer mom.
The target audience for that behavior is not who this article represents.
The single biggest mistake guys make with online dating is...
Attempting it if they don't have women throwing themselves at him in real life.
The online mistakes are not guys being who they are online , its you not accepting guys online who are being themselfs. Why have you been online so long?
My job is not the sort i can date anyone at and i was married and in several year long relationships? Doh
I can't understand your question...
Asker...
Some additions to your list:
1. Being on an Internet dating site in the first place
yea but those are the guys that are getting messages from girls lol
the one with the Ferrari and the douche foot with his shirt off in bed
lol
I upvoted only because of your use of "coquettishly." Well done.
There are some decent points in your take, especially about gun pics. The one about "never married no kids" is kind of harsh, and it's a shame that you feel that way.
I see the point about never married/no kids, and I'm one of those men unfortunately. When I see a woman on a site that is almost 40, never married and no kids, I start to wonder why. I wonder if she has big issues, spends all of her time working, or has never been serious about a relationship. Of course, on the other hand, when they are divorced, their ex may cause issues, or they may even be rebounding from the divorce. It's an age that it's really a lot harder to meet someone without a lot of potential for problems. The women I've met at this age never married have had psych problems except for one that was single because they spent time taking care of a dying family member
Just because you're talking to a bunch of people doesn't mean you running that success how many people here actually hook up on this site real real world
Internet dating is the problem. Most guys I know use internet dating for hookups. If a woman needs internet dating then she's not worth dating.
Wrong! Lots of dating is for hook ups or notching your belt. Personally I would be cautious of all potential liars anywhere. My friends son met his perfect match on line. Married.
@Gisele69 and the divorce rate of couples who met online is?
Step 1 don't be less than a 10 in hotness. Step 2 don't use dating sites in the first place, they're a waste of time and money
They're not a waste of time and money, they are what they are. It might be harder to have success if you can't present yourself as an attractive person on them, but that's life.
@Kkaos nope they're a complete waste of time unless you are very hot. I'm not the only one who thinks this.
But if you think they are by all means help yourself
What I think is fact. It's not an opinion.
@Kkaos lol ok buddy.
They are not a waste of time. I got some good nude pics I otherwise wouldn't have gotten.
@Apope16 for you it isn't, for most guys it is
A close friends son met his perfect match on line. It can happen. But personally I think most tell a lot of lies. Be careful what you reveal. In person dates may just want to notch their belts too. Its not easy today to avid all pitfalls.
@Gisele69 it can happen but it's rare
I always find the "pictures with friends" an annoying thing to overcome.
I have friends, but when we do shit we don't take pictures of ourselves ever like girls love to do. Rarely do I end up in pictures together with friends.
"glamour shots in repose simply don't translate!!!"
Yes they do, if you are hot.
And that is pretty much all that matters in internet dating.
Also, photos with friends are an absolutely terrible idea, really.
I just feel like you did a "things guys on dating sites do that I IN PARTICULAR don't like" without much of a thought about whether your feelings actually translate to the rest of the populace.
I think it might have to do with you being near 40 and thus being unrepresentative of the average dating app user.
I disagree. People generally like people that have friends. I don't think they should make up the bulk of photos, but one saying "hey! Im not a social leper!" Is nice.
And no healthy female wants to date a narcissist. So yeah, if you want meaningless attention, go with repose. But maybe weeding out the women who are drama and crazy (who like narcissists) is a good thing. Just saying
Agreed
I think they are just online to clown around and get nudes for their cum buckets.
The biggest mistake of online dating is doing it at all xD
Why?
@es20490446e Men get ignored unless they're rich, models or social savants.
Womem get flooded with low-quality messages asking for casual encounters so then they become extremely picky.
I wonder if the key is telling that you don't have sex right away :P
@es20490446e I have the morality of an incubus so ideally I want it ASAP xD
It feels not bad to me, but somehow empty. I need more emotional context for it to be truly satisfying.
I like the shirtless picture lmao and the second amendment photo
Agreed. I think the biggest mistake guys make is trying to appeal to other guys. I'd be very disturbed if I was a woman who saw a guy posting his hunting photos.
I'll get advice from a guy on internet dating and a guy who knows how to get women.
You can check out my mytake on online dating. It has gotten some positive responses.
@Apope16 Nice article!
www.girlsaskguys.com/.../a49003-9-online-dating-tips-for-guys
@es20490446e thanks!
@Apope16 i just responded to a person above and cited the law of 100. My take is not about finding someone for sex. It's about finding connection. I think many poster's have not understood that. SMH
Sex is connection. YOu cannot have romantic connection without intense sexual attraction. If you find a person who is average in sexual attractiveness, its okay to talk to them. I'd say go on a date with them and see how it goes. But if you meet a person and after the date you would not be willing to fuck their brains out... simply swipe on left.